"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Asked a dame out tonight and got the maybe, I will see whats going on that night spiel. Feels bad man. First time I have bothered to ask a chick out in like a year, I am too busy with my own **** to be going out.

I am pretty confident that maybe = no, so the question is should I take the maybe as a no and invite another lady out to this party? If I do so and the first chick actually comes through should I just be like sorry taking someone else who actually was interested (in so many words). This is where I am leaning now, because I am not gonna hold out for the first chick just to have her tell me she is busy a day prior to the event. What would the DJ's suggest?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would call her up and tell her that I need a straight answer, or else i'll take someone else.

She might just be saying maybe because she's not sure if she likes you or not. Maybe give her some time before you call her up again.
 
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HalfAddict said:
Asked a dame out tonight and got the maybe, I will see whats going on that night spiel. Feels bad man. First time I have bothered to ask a chick out in like a year, I am too busy with my own **** to be going out.

I am pretty confident that maybe = no, so the question is should I take the maybe as a no and invite another lady out to this party? If I do so and the first chick actually comes through should I just be like sorry taking someone else who actually was interested (in so many words). This is where I am leaning now, because I am not gonna hold out for the first chick just to have her tell me she is busy a day prior to the event. What would the DJ's suggest?
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The same game you are playing with chick #1 and chick #2, she may also be playing as well. When a girl says maybe, she usually means that she is weighing her options at the moment, perhaps with some other guys.

Women also have back ups in case their priority guy doesnt follow through.

If you dont have much of an ego and dont mind playing backup, then I would give her some time, say a week, to make up her mind and call her then. If shes still hesitant, then forget about her.
 
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Oh I do not have much of an ego, and I really would not mind all that much.. I just don't want to waste my time on a chick with low interest when I have others with higher interest. I just happen to prefer her looks and personality above that of the others. In the end it really is no skin off my nose if she does not want to go.
 
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