“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ouch. Stage 5 Clinger.
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soooo AFC and he knows it....
that's the worst type of disease.. knowing you are an omega and living with it...
Wish we could bring him here, Josh OkCupid
that's the worst type of disease.. knowing you are an omega and living with it...
Wish we could bring him here, Josh OkCupid
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ya it's easy to ridicule something like this. but truth is this could happen to anyone. he got emotionally invested pretty fast and definitely quicker than her and lost his mind. or lets say the rational censor. then he panicked and tried to fix it and the more he tried to fix it the worse it got. she wasnt completely off put in the beginning just a bit irritated. but he was so anxious about losing her that he couldnt hear that and kept going until she seriously felt uncomfortable.
point is he is no clinger or anything, he just got caught in the trap called (early) infatuation. and that clouded his judgment. and frankly what to do, or better lets say how to cope with that problem, i am not so sure of myself. you can always say spin more plates and next and there are other ones and she is not special, but if you feel it, you just do feel it.
and i think it is a more pronounced version of what we can read on this board pretty often, "he guys, met this girl/woman, date went well, we had sex/makeout/kissed, now she wont answer me and becomes distant and what should i do?" and so on. And i get the idea that often times exactly the same thing happened like it did here, somehow that insecurity got messaged through the convo, and she notices it and the guy kinda has his worries too, so he does stuff to make it better, but she is already on to him and so anything he does will make her even more suspicious until she reaches that point where she thinks, that is not what i want, it makes me uncomfortable, i feel pushed, whatever.
all i can come up with to solve this problem is, even if she seems the most precious thing ever, you cant be afraid of losing her. you welcome all that it gives you and value it but you have to let go at the same time. of course truly knowing that you deserve it might help too. because then you might be less worrying that it will be taken from you again. but theory is one thing, life another.
point is he is no clinger or anything, he just got caught in the trap called (early) infatuation. and that clouded his judgment. and frankly what to do, or better lets say how to cope with that problem, i am not so sure of myself. you can always say spin more plates and next and there are other ones and she is not special, but if you feel it, you just do feel it.
and i think it is a more pronounced version of what we can read on this board pretty often, "he guys, met this girl/woman, date went well, we had sex/makeout/kissed, now she wont answer me and becomes distant and what should i do?" and so on. And i get the idea that often times exactly the same thing happened like it did here, somehow that insecurity got messaged through the convo, and she notices it and the guy kinda has his worries too, so he does stuff to make it better, but she is already on to him and so anything he does will make her even more suspicious until she reaches that point where she thinks, that is not what i want, it makes me uncomfortable, i feel pushed, whatever.
all i can come up with to solve this problem is, even if she seems the most precious thing ever, you cant be afraid of losing her. you welcome all that it gives you and value it but you have to let go at the same time. of course truly knowing that you deserve it might help too. because then you might be less worrying that it will be taken from you again. but theory is one thing, life another.
^^^yup, that **** just happened to me....well last year, but I'm still suffering from the effects of it, and I learned about sites like this more than 8 years ago.
Come to think of it, it's happened twice now in 3 years, although I wasn't as bad as this guy. It's like, everything you wrote, I knew it...but I still acted like a fool. I'm in a relationship right now, but if it ever ends, hopefully I won't act like that again.
Come to think of it, it's happened twice now in 3 years, although I wasn't as bad as this guy. It's like, everything you wrote, I knew it...but I still acted like a fool. I'm in a relationship right now, but if it ever ends, hopefully I won't act like that again.
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this is what not having a life, not having hobbies, not have unique things to bide your time and make you feel good about yourself and pinning all your self esteem hopes on a woman look like in real life. it's not pretty.
i don't think most people here understand that, guy, he can't NOT do that. it's not that he doesn't have game, he is trying to fill an emotional void and is over compensating by cosign on way too hard towards her.
best thing you can do for your game, is to have a life. it is damn near impossible to have a harem or **** even a legit HB really be into you without you having your **** in order. in order doesn't even mean rich or 12 pack abs it means, ****.. having **** to do so that you don't can't sit and ponder about a broad alld ay long
**** how long that took the text out, think about how long he thought about that ****. this guy has NOTHIGN else to do, nothing else going on. it reeks.
i don't think most people here understand that, guy, he can't NOT do that. it's not that he doesn't have game, he is trying to fill an emotional void and is over compensating by cosign on way too hard towards her.
best thing you can do for your game, is to have a life. it is damn near impossible to have a harem or **** even a legit HB really be into you without you having your **** in order. in order doesn't even mean rich or 12 pack abs it means, ****.. having **** to do so that you don't can't sit and ponder about a broad alld ay long
**** how long that took the text out, think about how long he thought about that ****. this guy has NOTHIGN else to do, nothing else going on. it reeks.
This is a remake of that scene from Swingers where the guy keeps leaving messages on the chick's phone.
The best thing to do if you are feeling desperate about a woman - keep your mouth shut!
Be the cool strong silent type until your confidence grows. Even then it is never a good thing to spill your guts to a woman. You become less of a man every time you do.
Save the sappy bullshyt for your buddies after you've had a few drinks. There is no reason to pour out your guts like this guy did. When guys do this they think the chick is going to see their sensitive side and that is somehow going to attract them. It does the opposite. You end up looking immature, weak, and feminine.
Keep your early conversations light and fun. Your entire focus should be on fun and nothing too serious.
P.S. Never talk about previous relationships. If it comes up tell her you'd rather focus on "now" not the past.
The best thing to do if you are feeling desperate about a woman - keep your mouth shut!
Be the cool strong silent type until your confidence grows. Even then it is never a good thing to spill your guts to a woman. You become less of a man every time you do.
Save the sappy bullshyt for your buddies after you've had a few drinks. There is no reason to pour out your guts like this guy did. When guys do this they think the chick is going to see their sensitive side and that is somehow going to attract them. It does the opposite. You end up looking immature, weak, and feminine.
Keep your early conversations light and fun. Your entire focus should be on fun and nothing too serious.
P.S. Never talk about previous relationships. If it comes up tell her you'd rather focus on "now" not the past.
that is exactly what is going on with infatuation, you've lost your mind because your brain is being flooded with loads of hormones (dopamine) and you are literally high, not much different than your common drug user. And so you'll do anything to defend that state like basically beg a girl to be with you. LOL.flashpoint said: