Other guys hate ones with confidence?

[Movin on up]

Well, been around the site for quite some time. Just decided to register the other day. Just want to say thanks for the helpful information and motivational posts have pretty much helped me make major changes in confidence and my approach toward life. Still but nowhere near a DJ

(Enough sappy shiz)

Now to my topic.
Being the confident men you are. Have you come across many other guys that are just plain A-s-s holes? I mean When I meet a new group of people I naturally (now) just pretty much jump on in and start having my way with the conversation. Talking to the new women. (of course).

Since I've starting doing this I've notice A LOT of negativeness from these guys I dont know. Afterwords my lady friends tell me that these guys think Im an azzhole and Im ****y and all that. None of the women had a problem with it however.

What the hell causes this, and have ya came across it?

 

[blinkwatt]

yes,i kinda myself wondering if sometimes im the guy everyone says"who does he think he is?"

 

[Jariel]

I second what Supergigalo said. Confident men are usually quite charismatic and endearing to everyone and generally get respect from majority of the people they meet. ****y guys on the other hand try to take centre stage, grow obnoxious and tend to piss people off.

I know being ****y is promoted a lot on this site, but I wouldn't advocate it as it has earned me many negative responses from men and women. Being quietly confident and easygoing goes down a lot better in my experience.

 

[The Bartender]

hate? no, they envy.

 

[Brad324]

Guys already hate a ****y bastard, but a ****y bastard that's attracting all the women? You bet your ass they'll try to tear you down. Good idea to keep the ****iness down, unless you're a bodybuilder that people wouldn't dare talk smack about. I think the biggest problem is when guys are constantly over-concerned with the image they're portraying at all times. Reading too much about techniques can do this to your head, where you're constantly worrying about posture, making eye contact, speaking a certain way, coming up with funny lines, etc. People can see right through this constant self-obsession. In my experience, it's best to just live and act however the hell you want, and when your start talking to a chick, then you can start putting on the ****iness.

 

[aftershock]

Originally posted by The Bartender
hate? no, they envy.

I've found that most guys do get on with me, but theres a small minority that don't - those that take life too seriously. There are many, perhaps 10-20%, but they do exist.

I disagree that there is too much ****y - if you add the "funny", you can get away with almost anything.

 

[blinkwatt]

the ones that try to bring down my standards are the same bastards who dont have confidence in themselves to do what they want.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Men compete for women. When you converse with girls and take spotlight away from other guys, they will try to get the spotlight back and c0ckblock you. It's human nature. The problem for them is that most guys can't pull this off without turning the girl off with immature a$$hole behaviour.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

The weak envy the strong. That's the way it is with life.

The best thing you can do is simply not be a total jerk. People find it hard to hate those who like them.

 

[ImSoHorny005]

I believe only those who don't have enough confidence "hate" confident guys... but it's probably more of jealousy than hate. I've "hated" them either, but as I gained more and more confidence, it disappeared and I tend to make friends with such guys

 

[squirrels]

You can detect right off the bat when guys are with a girl which are trying to get in her pants and which aren't. You'll detect the hostility. It's a natural thing.

If a guy-friend of a girl is cool with me, I'll be cool with him. Sports is always a good conversation-piece.

If a guy-friend of a girl starts acting pompous, or hostile, or whatever, I just politely tune him out. He becomes background noise. Let the girl deal with him, he's HER friend. And if she's into you, she'll tune him out too.

Then there are those guys who want to "protect their female friends" in a club or whatever. But usually they fall into the former category...they're cautious around you, but still remain polite and friendly.

Either way, don't get stressed. Unless they try to physically "lay hands" on you. Then crush them.

 

[cant think of a user name]

To quote AIR-PILOT:

"become DIPLOMATIC"

In your case, dont just barge in and take all their women . Be cool with the guys too, then you'll be in with everyone.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by Movin on up
Well, been around the site for quite some time. Just decided to register the other day. Just want to say thanks for the helpful information and motivational posts have pretty much helped me make major changes in confidence and my approach toward life. Still but nowhere near a DJ

(Enough sappy shiz)

Now to my topic.
Being the confident men you are. Have you come across many other guys that are just plain A-s-s holes? I mean When I meet a new group of people I naturally (now) just pretty much jump on in and start having my way with the conversation. Talking to the new women. (of course).

Since I've starting doing this I've notice A LOT of negativeness from these guys I dont know. Afterwords my lady friends tell me that these guys think Im an azzhole and Im ****y and all that. None of the women had a problem with it however.

What the hell causes this, and have ya came across it?

Of course they are jealous of you! Its in our nature to hate what we don't understand, fear what we can't conquer, don't stop what you are man because one thing if there's one thing I have learned is that people will hate you for whatever you do, so do what you want to do and nevermind everyone else.

-ONE-

 

[King of Action]

You are real as they get. Don't listen to what these other posters are saying about jealousy. You know why, they learned it from this website, therefore they carry themselves like they better than everybody else since they have inside knowledge (mostly other men).

On my job, coincidentally, I've sensed how other guys get when I'm with the females (hot babes) and sense jealousy. This website is all about carry yourself with confidence. When you notice jealousy, just be cool and collect but also not afraid of other people jealousy. It happens when you are other men competition when they want to steal your confidence, however, if you spent time in the dj bible, guess what, jealousy or not, they can't take it away from you.

What you've learned is working...And as they say in this forum..Women will notice it, however, YOU ARE RARE because you're being the PRINCE CHARMER....Play it safe and don't be ****y with other dudes, but enjoy your knowledge and learn more..

WONDERFUL POST.....Hope to hear from you again....

 

[blinkwatt]

with great power(this website) comes great responsibility(using the advice/tips/etc.).

 

[So pimp its scary]

Being diplomatic is the ideal.

It's already been said tho, but with the funny you can be as ****y as you want and get away with it.