"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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OTC Anti Anxiety Pills

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Basically I have terrible performance anxiety when i'm with this one girl. I tried yohimbe and horny goat weed but my anxiety rendered those pills useless.

For some reason i can't get rid of this damn anxiety around her so I'm basically looking for any drug that can calm me down or kill the anxiety.

Something avaiblable at GNC is what i'm looking for.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Drugs don't do anything but mask your problem. You should set out to conquer your fear without chemical help. It will only get worse if you don't.
 

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Just breathe you big puss. Drugs won't solve the problem, experience will. It's all in your head. Don't think about the problem, think about how hot you are for her.
 

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Originally posted by Soshyopathe
think about how hot you are for her.
and how hot SHE IS FOR YOU! ITS A NATURAL THING! she wants your cack. Dont let her down.

Most anti-a drugs have negative sexual side effects, so forgot it.
 

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I've heard from a lot of folks that Stamina-RX works really well; much better than they thought it would. They said their fairly outrageous claims in mags and such actually did have some substance. Might be something you want to look into.

And I wouldn't necessarily listen to "stop being a puss and work it out..." kinda comments with stuff like this. You either can get it up or you can't; trying to be a badass toughguy won't really help you out. I think that attitude has become too prevalent among people that don't know what they're talking about (and it surprises me coming from you, Soshyopathe, among others...since you're one of the ones that does know what they're talking about).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You might want to consider this

Unless you have a mental disorder concerning proper brain function, you may want to consider that you are not programmed optimally.

Ask yourself if you enjoy the feeling you get from experiencing anxiety? How do you see yourself in terms of how in control you are of your anxiety? If your anxiety is a function of the mind, therefore can't the mind work the energy wasted on anxiety to something more useful?

Do you want to improve your situation and become in control of your body? Are you willing to be truly open to yourself and accept yourself, and all your faults and good points? Are you willing to evaluate the who what where when why how of your anxiety, and reprogram yourself to experience anxiety less?

One more thing. Anxiety- do you experience good feelings when you discover you are in an anxious state? If not, do you laugh at yourself, or condone anxiety? If so, then perhaps what your problem is is probably paranioa of anxiety and function of a conscious mind overloadig itself with its concern for anxiety.

If you are in fact badly programmed, as I suspect, better programming is, IMHO, going to be most useful in helping you.
 

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Originally posted by K-Daddy


And I wouldn't necessarily listen to "stop being a puss and work it out..." kinda comments with stuff like this. You either can get it up or you can't; trying to be a badass toughguy won't really help you out. I think that attitude has become too prevalent among people that don't know what they're talking about (and it surprises me coming from you, Soshyopathe, among others...since you're one of the ones that does know what they're talking about).
But somewhere along the line people have to realize its ALL IN THEIR HEAD! Everything is. This guy is just nervous because he likes this chick a lot.
 

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Originally posted by K-Daddy
I think that attitude has become too prevalent among people that don't know what they're talking about (and it surprises me coming from you, Soshyopathe, among others...since you're one of the ones that does know what they're talking about).
That's cause I do know what I'm talking about, and it's ALL IN HIS HEAD! I've been there, and it's bad times. It comes from being a big puss, bottom line. As soon as you stop worrying about it, it MAGICALLY goes away.
 

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Originally posted by VHT252
ask your doctor for a medication called inderal. It will reduce the anxiety without the side effects...for most people.
Isnt that used for ADD?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Man...this performance anxiety is really f-in with my head. Big time. It's all i got runnin through my head. I totally understand that i shouldn't think about it but my brain doesn't want to comprehend it or something. I have no idea of what to do or even think anymore.
 
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To program yourself, in this case, realize that there is no benefit to feeling this anxiety, and that you are in control. You can end that anxiety with a firm belief that it doesn't have to be that way. If you don't enjoy feeling anxious, then don't. Programming yourself simply involves reframing things, forming new beliefs, replacing old ones, and deleting some.

You might want to check out neurosemantics.com
 
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