"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Heretolearn

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Hi guys,

As mature men, I would relaly appreciate your assistance. As we we all know, our lives affect how we are with women and OUR lives are the priority so....

I am working on a Project as a contractor. My contract is 'as needed' with one week notice.

My boss spoke to me yesterday saying that the Contractors Contracts will not be renewed when they expire as their roles (including mine) are completed and asked when mine was expiring. Most have a time stipulated but mine is quite open ended.

I am concerned for my job security. He has told me he is looking for other things for me and does not want to lose such a great employee but recommended to look around on the Company website for other positions and that he would be a referee. He said he is trying to find something for himself also.

I have my job agency looking for work for me as well and trying to find out when my completion date is. No one is telling me as they don't know themselves.

I have sent out my CV to about 5 other companies. I am 28, have a computer science and a law degree, about 5 years experience in both Oil and Gas plus the Mining industry in Australia.

I planned to work abroad in a couple of years for the experience but wanted to build my experience here first as I have heard overseas work can be quite intense and I want to perform. Plus my lifestyle here is quite good.

Same day I found out a tenant is leaving my apartment so I will lose rental income. Sheesh. yes, I have planned for this but just not at the same time. I will get through it but will have to rebuild my contingency fund afterwards I bet :)

So any similar stories/suggestions appreciated. A MASSIVE shock as last week they were talking about a promotion and now this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Metro3pilot

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That sucks man, been in your shoes ....always worked out getting a better job than the one I was layed off from ...

Like a Phoenix you will rise from the ashes, keep your head up

:rockon:
 

mtbbkr111

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At least your boss gave you the heads up!

Use this oppurtunity to try something new.. I met a guy last week. We were talking about careers and this part of the conversation we had:

Him: I love the unions..

Me: Why do you say that?

Him: I worked in a shop in my hometown as an engineer. Made good money, had a house and was destined to live there for life. They became unionized, 2 weeks later the shop closed, I was out of a job. BUT... That caused me to look for, and get, a better job where I travel. I now live in a different city, where I met my wife, make more money, and have a better job! Like I said, the union was the best thing that happened to me!


Your attitude towards the situation will determine the outcome..
 

Heretolearn

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wow thanks guys, just sort of wanted to chat about it all as I am sure many people have been in similar situations.

Will stay positive :)
 

Stavrogin

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The job market for lawyers is definitely a joke unless you're in the top 10% of your class.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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