Orgasm trouble

[Matlm]

Sup Guys,

I have a bit of a problem. To date, no girl has ever been able to give me an orgasm or bring me to close. I have been with my fair share of girls. Its just that nothing has ever compared to masterbation.

Aside from being something physical, I have a theory that it may be something psychological. I am a pretty defensive person, and the idea of allowing someone the power to give me the most intense pleasure would make me extremely vulnerable, a position I unconciously may not want to be in.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

 

[hyd]

if you masturbate really hard the nervs could become a bit numb, when having sex maybe the stimulation just isnt what ur used to, give it some gentle strokes next time

 

[DJBen]

Yep, it's true. If you can *** when masterbating, in theory, it can happen when you're having sex. I find that when I go a few days without masterbating, orgasm is faster and better when having sex.

Give it a go, I have a feeling you masterbate regularly, so you're used to fast, hard stimulation.

 

[blabla]

Dont masterbate.
And a large part of sex, as cliche as it is, is in your head.

 

[Superman X]

I have the same problem, and also think it is psycological. I mean, physically, I think a warm, wet, tight ***** feels better than a hand, even wearing a condom. It's gotta be all in our heads.

I think it has to do with sex anxiety, and the pressure to perform. With masturbation, there's no pressure, it's just you and nobody to judge you. With sex though, it's much different.

Honestly, I'm still experiencing this problem, and I think the way for us to solve it is this.

1. Occasional masturbation is ok but no porn. We can lose our sensititivity psycologically much more easily that physically.

2. Thinnest condoms we can find, Lifestyles ultrathin are ok, someone let me know if you know of a better brand.

3. Just relax and let the pleasure happen to you.

-Dan

 

[ThePeterman]

Originally posted by Superman X

2. Thinnest condoms we can find, Lifestyles ultrathin are ok, someone let me know if you know of a better brand.

Durex makes a really good ultra thin one called featherlite.

Also the polyurethane condoms (avanti) are a very different feel.

 

[splinterkb]

Are you on any medications at all? Some medications can really fvck up your sex drive (I used to be on some meds that did that).