Opinions welcome. What should I expect?

[disgustipated]

I always liked BB's post about not expecting more,.or too much more, than you personally are bringing to the table. So I'm gonna be brutally honest about my current self and ask you guys what you think I should rationally expect , woman wise. Currently having trouble finding my dating level.

38. Never married. No kids. 30k job. Good shape, but not elite. Not the best dresser. Drive an old pickup truck. Can hold a conversation in most social settings. Live at home taking care of family member for now...make no.excuses for this either. Id give me a 5 or 6 on face alone. I look 30.

That's me right at this second. Based off that what do you think I should aspire to?

I plan on.moving up...possibly 50k at work. Better shape. Dressing more like an adult. New truck. Buy a house. Expanding social circle. Take dancing class. Learn at least one additional language.

I know women only care about the now but with those improvements do I.stand to reason to expect at least a 7??? Because I can get 5s all.day long now, wondering if I'm shooting low or its worth all that effort. I mean I would plan to.do all those things regardless because I love evolving but has anyone drastically improved themselves and what type of success did you enjoy afterwards in comparison?

 

[Desdinova]

The fact that you need our input on this tells me that you're hoping to live up to everyone else's expectations. If you're happy with your $30k job, fvck what everyone else thinks. If you like your old beat-up truck, fvck what any woman thinks (if she doesn't like it, she can buy YOU a new truck.)

If you're genuinely happy with the things you have in your life, then the woman isn't going to judge you based on them. If you're ashamed of the things in your life, you need to change the things you don't like. You need to at LEAST have a plan to change them. If you don't, she will smell your lack of self-confidence like a backed-up sewer.

 

[flashpoint]

38. Never married. No kids = no baggage
30k job. = can pay his bills
Good shape, but not elite. = no fat slop either.
Not the best dresser. Drive an old pickup truck. = a bit oldfashioned??? simple?
Can hold a conversation in most social settings. = whatever that means? you should find ways to enjoy company i guess.
Live at home taking care of family member = guy who takes on responsibility, HUGE plus
Id give me a 5 or 6 on face alone. I look 30. = looks dont matter much with a man. it is true.



I know women only care about the now --> they also care about what you aspire to. maybe find something less profane than clothes and such. what is important in your life, what is it that you would be dedicated to. define that and go for it.

that said, clothing style is the easiest. you are on a budget i assume, so dont worry about dressing up. just go for a more simple style, that flatters your figure and shows that you take care of yourself to some degree(metrosexual is prolly not yours anyways) a pair of cool jeans, some nice shirts, even t-shirts ... and SHOES. own 2-3 pair of great quality here. some accessoires maybe, like a necklace or a bracelett. something that means something to you. HAIRCUT. dont save on that one. a good haircut can amp up your appearance 1 or 2 levels.

know this: with all the material things it is much more the qualities you are projecting thru them than the actual thing. show you take good care of yourself and other people, are social, have dreams and work on making them true and so on.

but above all you need to define what you really want. other than a number on an imaginary scale. with clear goals come clear steps to get there.

this and what desdinova says

 

[disgustipated]

Thanks, especially flashpoint. Some good tips in there for myself.

I'd say I'm currently content with all these things, I just aspire for better for myself and that's the truth....and that includes women. I mean I love my ol pickup, bit would love a new one down the road when shes on her last legs....nothing to do with impressing a woman....that doesn't hurt though. I'm just not.content with the current level of woman I'm pulling is all. And yeah my game is not where it should be even though I can bull****s pretty well...qbout nonsense.

 

[Desdinova]

I'm just not.content with the current level of woman I'm pulling is all.

If you want a higher level of women, you need to learn how to lure them away from the men they're currently with. Attractive women usually have a man in their lives. The good news is most of them are AFCs to some degree so stealing the woman is fairly easy if you push the emotional buttons her man has forgotten about.

 

[disgustipated]

Have enough problems pulling the single ones I aspire to get with, think ill focus.on them.for now thanks.