"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Opinions, opinions, opinions...

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Aazman

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Now we all know that a major factor of confidence that is found attractive in women is: I don't give a potty what everyone else thinks.

However I'm curious to know- What is the opinion of a particular girl? And does it affect my chance?

So the repo build up involving this girl:

(i'm quite a lad- so) Had a shouting match with another guy in a flat party. Everyone ended up being quite- she goes: SHhh, Aaz. Stop being so loud" along wiht a look of annoyance.

Facebook: A friend of mine changes his fb name ALOT- so I hijacked his original name and impersonated it with alot of people. She found this joke- once she realised who it really was, to be quite a bit odd. (obv its a private joke)

Dancing at a jazz club- I pretty much went crazy- most of my friends thought i was drunk(don't drink :) ) so dancing about with her. Quick pelvic shake and i pushed her with my hip about 2 metres away. I was laughing- she was irritated.

But she still approaches me and talks to me. Though no serious talk, since I haven't initiated any. She stares at me often.

Now what I'm wondering is: What is her opinion on me from what it sounds like? Jerk or just a bold confident guy?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Now what I'm wondering is: What is her opinion on me from what it sounds like? Jerk or just a bold confident guy?
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Women don't think in terms of "he's confident" or "he's an ass". They spend their time trying to figure out what their feelings are telling them. From the sounds of how you're describing her body language, she's been thinking about you because of all the feelings that you're making her feel. Throw something just a *bit* on the sweet side at her and you'll be in. Grab her hand (kino), examine it, and tell her she's got pretty fingers.

She already finds you intriguing. Make her feelings jump all over the scale and she'll be yours.
 
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Aazman

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thanks for the help.

What do you mean by women spend their time wondering about what their feelings tell them. Could you explain a bit more? I'm just interested, thats all.

And in terms of making her feel "something"- do you mean that you just need to make her get ANY opinion of you. As in annoyed, angry rather than JUST the generic chatting and asking about her?
 
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Women are more focused on their feelings. Men are more focused on logic. If you really observe women, you'll notice that they're into things that give them emotional fluctuation. They watch soaps, they love astrology, fortune telling, VLTs, drama, romance novels, etc etc. All of these things give women fluctuating emotion, and they love it.

And in terms of making her feel "something"- do you mean that you just need to make her get ANY opinion of you. As in annoyed, angry rather than JUST the generic chatting and asking about her?
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What I'm talking about is getting her mind stuck on thinking about you. If you're nice to her one minute and a bit mean the next, she's going to try and figure out if you like her or not. You made her feel happy, then a little upset. She's going to wonder if you like her, hate her, or maybe you're not really interested (but maybe you are!) In other words, try getting her to dwell on you.
 
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Desdinova said:
Women are more focused on their feelings. Men are more focused on logic....


UPDATE- ahha i just re read that post.

I understand now- so just them simply thinking about you starts the process? And is that why- when you tell any girl that a guy likes them- they believe it, and even start thinking of the guy in that way?
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Aazman said:
Dancing at a jazz club- I pretty much went crazy- most of my friends thought i was drunk(don't drink :) ) so dancing about with her. Quick pelvic shake and i pushed her with my hip about 2 metres away. I was laughing- she was irritated.
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I don't know about this ^^.
Somehow i doubt whether her memory of you doing that gets her wet late at night when she and Mr Happy Plastic are getting busy.
 
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im a good dancer, and i wasn't really up for giving HER a good time. Just wanted to have good time with my friends :)

although it provoked a response, didn't it?
 
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