"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Opinions, opinions, opinions...

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Now we all know that a major factor of confidence that is found attractive in women is: I don't give a potty what everyone else thinks.

However I'm curious to know- What is the opinion of a particular girl? And does it affect my chance?

So the repo build up involving this girl:

(i'm quite a lad- so) Had a shouting match with another guy in a flat party. Everyone ended up being quite- she goes: SHhh, Aaz. Stop being so loud" along wiht a look of annoyance.

Facebook: A friend of mine changes his fb name ALOT- so I hijacked his original name and impersonated it with alot of people. She found this joke- once she realised who it really was, to be quite a bit odd. (obv its a private joke)

Dancing at a jazz club- I pretty much went crazy- most of my friends thought i was drunk(don't drink :) ) so dancing about with her. Quick pelvic shake and i pushed her with my hip about 2 metres away. I was laughing- she was irritated.

But she still approaches me and talks to me. Though no serious talk, since I haven't initiated any. She stares at me often.

Now what I'm wondering is: What is her opinion on me from what it sounds like? Jerk or just a bold confident guy?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Now what I'm wondering is: What is her opinion on me from what it sounds like? Jerk or just a bold confident guy?
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Women don't think in terms of "he's confident" or "he's an ass". They spend their time trying to figure out what their feelings are telling them. From the sounds of how you're describing her body language, she's been thinking about you because of all the feelings that you're making her feel. Throw something just a *bit* on the sweet side at her and you'll be in. Grab her hand (kino), examine it, and tell her she's got pretty fingers.

She already finds you intriguing. Make her feelings jump all over the scale and she'll be yours.
 
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thanks for the help.

What do you mean by women spend their time wondering about what their feelings tell them. Could you explain a bit more? I'm just interested, thats all.

And in terms of making her feel "something"- do you mean that you just need to make her get ANY opinion of you. As in annoyed, angry rather than JUST the generic chatting and asking about her?
 
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Women are more focused on their feelings. Men are more focused on logic. If you really observe women, you'll notice that they're into things that give them emotional fluctuation. They watch soaps, they love astrology, fortune telling, VLTs, drama, romance novels, etc etc. All of these things give women fluctuating emotion, and they love it.

And in terms of making her feel "something"- do you mean that you just need to make her get ANY opinion of you. As in annoyed, angry rather than JUST the generic chatting and asking about her?
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What I'm talking about is getting her mind stuck on thinking about you. If you're nice to her one minute and a bit mean the next, she's going to try and figure out if you like her or not. You made her feel happy, then a little upset. She's going to wonder if you like her, hate her, or maybe you're not really interested (but maybe you are!) In other words, try getting her to dwell on you.
 
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Desdinova said:
Women are more focused on their feelings. Men are more focused on logic....


UPDATE- ahha i just re read that post.

I understand now- so just them simply thinking about you starts the process? And is that why- when you tell any girl that a guy likes them- they believe it, and even start thinking of the guy in that way?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Aazman said:
Dancing at a jazz club- I pretty much went crazy- most of my friends thought i was drunk(don't drink :) ) so dancing about with her. Quick pelvic shake and i pushed her with my hip about 2 metres away. I was laughing- she was irritated.
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I don't know about this ^^.
Somehow i doubt whether her memory of you doing that gets her wet late at night when she and Mr Happy Plastic are getting busy.
 
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im a good dancer, and i wasn't really up for giving HER a good time. Just wanted to have good time with my friends :)

although it provoked a response, didn't it?
 
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