Opinions on if No Contact is the right thing in my situation

[Milano]

Its so sad that every single time they ghost or need time "alone" they are ****ing someone else. Disgusting behavior

 

[Building_and_Loan]

1 You clearly haven't swallowed the red pill. You may know about it..but nope, you're still trapped.
2 Had you swallowed the red pill, you wouldn't have wasted so much time thinking about this particular girl.

P.S.

For next women...if they stop contacting you, instead of overanalyze so much just:
a) text them something to see how they react (if they do)
or
b) forget about them, forever.

These are the quickest options to keep your mental balance and go on with your life instead of wasting it.

What the fvck. Did you even bother paying attention to the date my original post was?

This thread is 2 years old. When I made the post I was all blue pill. 2 years later I've recovered.

 

[maxalton]

What the fvck. Did you even bother paying attention to the date my original post was?

This thread is 2 years old. When I made the post I was all blue pill. 2 years later I've recovered.

what ended up happening? did either of you ever reach out to eachother again?

 

[Building_and_Loan]

what ended up happening? did either of you ever reach out to eachother again?

Nope never did. Actually the bumping of this thread made me re-think of this situation all over again today haha.

I can't say I condone going ghost like she did, as it's poor behavior, but I don't blame her for losing attraction. I definitely never had a good frame here. I treated her like a girlfriend pretty much right off the bat, and at no point was I a challenge for her. She never had to work for my attention, because I gave it away for free. Every time we went out, I'd pay for everything and that added up over time, so it's like I was trying to buy her attention and approval while giving her my attention without her having to work for it too.

It's funny though because a few weeks ago I banged 2 different girls in one day and didn't spend more than $9 (on myself) total between the two of them. One girl I had just met, the other I'd been dating for a month or so.

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

The thing I hate about NC in cases like this is that it lets her get away with crappy behavior without consequence... It makes it easy for her.

Totally agree, which is exactly the reason why I'm NOT going NC on this woman I was dating. Basically the same thing as described in the OP happened.
(Edit after reading the whole thread: ) Okay, maybe not exactly as the OP described, because I never treated this girl like a girlfriend and I made her work for my attention.

If this woman wants to reject me, she can do so to my face. Not going to let her go off easy.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not stalking her, nor am I pursuing her like a beta male who can't take no for an answer. I went NC during the holidays, but now I texted her again and invited her over to my place. She replied with "I'd love to come over, but I'm not sure if I have that day off." To which I replied: "Sweet! If I hear nothing I expect you'll be coming over. If you can't make it I'll expect you to text me a counter offer, okay?". If she doesn't give a counter offer, I expect her to show up. If she doesn't show up, no biggie, it won't fuzz me, I'll simply text "Is it really that hard to just tell me you don't want to see me anymore? Is that how you treat guys you had a great time with where you're from?" and then delete her number. If that happens I don't even want her as a booty call or plate anymore.

Hopefully that will make her feel guilty. I know it might be futile and maybe it might come off as beta to her, but I honestly don't care, I just can't stand the thought of her disrespecting me like that and getting away with it so easily.

Meanwhile I'm trying to set up new plates. Don't worry, I won't let this girl get under my skin, but I won't let her get away with it so easily either. Women should know and realize that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. If they really don't want to see us again for whatever reason, they should just say so. That's what I do with girls too. If I for whatever reason don't want to see a girl anymore, I will let her know by telling her in a friendly but clear way, because I'm a decent human being.