Okay, I don't have much experience with girls so I thought I'd share this situation that's been going on. It's very detailed because I thought i'd include a lot of the signals she's been givin me, which is why this whole thing is confusing.
Just a little background on my appearance: 5'9'', decent/moderately good looking (innocent looking too), and thin. I just turned 20, but a lot of people think I look 17-18, and think that I'm still in high school.
At my place of work, about 6 months ago this girl was hired - she's a few years younger then me. She is very hot. So for the first little while, we barely talked. I treated her like any other girl really. Talked to her sometimes when it was convenient and I wasn't busy. Never went out of my way to talk to her or treat her differently, because, I mean I don't know her yet so why should I. Slowly but surely we started to feel comfortable with each other - I'd playfully tease her for instance, and she'd laugh - it was just casual fun (I still hadn't got to know her yet really). I started to notice some things she did and mentioned. I guess I wasn't scheduled the same shift as her for a few weeks, and when I saw her she said "I never work with you anymore
" I was kinda surprised because to be honest I barely even noticed that I wasn't seeing her anymore, there was another girl at work whom I was flirting with anyway.
A month or so later, perhaps, I finally got a chance to know her a little better. I had a break and she was 10 minutes early before her shift so we just hung out. Had a great conversation, she was laughing the entire time saying "shut upppp!" etc. I guess she lost track of time because she ended up being a couple minutes late. Another time I was telling my buddy I wanted to change one of my shifts, and she was there too and said "nooo...I wanna see you that day."
So at that point I was starting to have feelings for her, after spending some time alone with her and realizing that I enjoyed spending time with her. A couple days later, I found out that she gave her email address to a co-worker of mine - which seemed to be in a kind of 'ask me out' fasion. That sucked - I was totally confused. Whenever I saw them together, they rarely flirted, I thought they were just casual work acquaintences. Granted, this guy is several years older than I am and very good looking. Anyways, nothing happened between them as she thought he was around 19, but in actual fact he was like 22. Too old for her, and she was too young for him.
Things between us were the same though. She had to work at another store (same company) one time, she called me from the other store just to chat and banter over the phone. If we're working together, she calls me during the periods with no customers just to chat. In fact, she even called me at the store from her house on weekday night. So over the phone, I asked her "hey, you have uh...msn?" and she said like "Oh I shouldn't tell you it, I made it like 5 years ago and it's really stupid." Of course, I know that she gave this other guy her email (and ya I do know what her email is since I saw the note, it is a childish address) so that's where I'm lost. She calls me and enjoys talking to me and all that, but when I ask for her msn she makes up a phony excuse. It's not like I asked her to marry me, or even asked her out. Just an email address. Things after that were the same - i haven't worked with her much lately and I think she misses me, just by her tone when I saw her last week.
The main reason why I am concerned about this is because it's a girl I work with so I don't want to mess things up. If it was just some random girl I met - then hey, ask her out and if she says no, no problem. But it would suck if things went wrong, and she'll no doubt tell other people and then my casual part-time job isn't as fun. So is she just using me for attention or what? I mean, if I was calling her and feeding her ego 24/7 I could definitely say that - but I have to be honest and say that she has been doing most of the calling/chatting/whatever and I've just been along for the ride. Any ideas?
Just a little background on my appearance: 5'9'', decent/moderately good looking (innocent looking too), and thin. I just turned 20, but a lot of people think I look 17-18, and think that I'm still in high school.
At my place of work, about 6 months ago this girl was hired - she's a few years younger then me. She is very hot. So for the first little while, we barely talked. I treated her like any other girl really. Talked to her sometimes when it was convenient and I wasn't busy. Never went out of my way to talk to her or treat her differently, because, I mean I don't know her yet so why should I. Slowly but surely we started to feel comfortable with each other - I'd playfully tease her for instance, and she'd laugh - it was just casual fun (I still hadn't got to know her yet really). I started to notice some things she did and mentioned. I guess I wasn't scheduled the same shift as her for a few weeks, and when I saw her she said "I never work with you anymore
" I was kinda surprised because to be honest I barely even noticed that I wasn't seeing her anymore, there was another girl at work whom I was flirting with anyway.A month or so later, perhaps, I finally got a chance to know her a little better. I had a break and she was 10 minutes early before her shift so we just hung out. Had a great conversation, she was laughing the entire time saying "shut upppp!" etc. I guess she lost track of time because she ended up being a couple minutes late. Another time I was telling my buddy I wanted to change one of my shifts, and she was there too and said "nooo...I wanna see you that day."
So at that point I was starting to have feelings for her, after spending some time alone with her and realizing that I enjoyed spending time with her. A couple days later, I found out that she gave her email address to a co-worker of mine - which seemed to be in a kind of 'ask me out' fasion. That sucked - I was totally confused. Whenever I saw them together, they rarely flirted, I thought they were just casual work acquaintences. Granted, this guy is several years older than I am and very good looking. Anyways, nothing happened between them as she thought he was around 19, but in actual fact he was like 22. Too old for her, and she was too young for him.
Things between us were the same though. She had to work at another store (same company) one time, she called me from the other store just to chat and banter over the phone. If we're working together, she calls me during the periods with no customers just to chat. In fact, she even called me at the store from her house on weekday night. So over the phone, I asked her "hey, you have uh...msn?" and she said like "Oh I shouldn't tell you it, I made it like 5 years ago and it's really stupid." Of course, I know that she gave this other guy her email (and ya I do know what her email is since I saw the note, it is a childish address) so that's where I'm lost. She calls me and enjoys talking to me and all that, but when I ask for her msn she makes up a phony excuse. It's not like I asked her to marry me, or even asked her out. Just an email address. Things after that were the same - i haven't worked with her much lately and I think she misses me, just by her tone when I saw her last week.
The main reason why I am concerned about this is because it's a girl I work with so I don't want to mess things up. If it was just some random girl I met - then hey, ask her out and if she says no, no problem. But it would suck if things went wrong, and she'll no doubt tell other people and then my casual part-time job isn't as fun. So is she just using me for attention or what? I mean, if I was calling her and feeding her ego 24/7 I could definitely say that - but I have to be honest and say that she has been doing most of the calling/chatting/whatever and I've just been along for the ride. Any ideas?