Operation: Get Rejected

[Sofomore]

Are you guys ready for the challenge that MOTU set up but never made the rules for? I just moved to a new city and I am ready to get fvcking rejected! Nothing gets my confidence flowing like a mission to fail on purpose!

Original thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172604

The Operation: Get rejected 10 times in one day.

Simple as that.

I am going to do this on this Thursday, August 30th. Who is with me?

 

[Scars]

I agree that this sort of challenge decreases your approach anxiety. But why not just try and go for the gold, and if you get rejected, just not give a Fvck? I mean, that's the whole point of the challenge anyway right? Not giving a sh!t?

-Scars

 

[spang]

im gonna try it. theres an old samurai saying that goes like "go into battle prepared to die and you will survive. go into battle hoping to live and you will surely die." lets see what happens.

 

[betheman]

I do think to help deal with the anxiety, guys shouldnt see not getting the girl as rejection, its more a case of striking out, thats all, you take a swing and miss, then now and again you connect, make more a game of it and the ego doesnt get so battered

 

[Sofomore]

I have found myself getting AA recently and think this challenge is a great way for me to learn how not to give a fvck about how the interaction goes. Right now I care a little too much about how it ends up...enough to the point where I won't approach.

This is just for people that want to see results fast and boost confidence in a matter of one day.

 

[bigneil]

This is a good idea, and you should apply it to girls who give your their number and then flake too. TRY to get rejected and HOPE they flake. And when you get them back to your place, TRY to scare them off by being aggressive.

 

[MetalFortress]

I agree that this sort of challenge decreases your approach anxiety. But why not just try and go for the gold, and if you get rejected, just not give a Fvck? I mean, that's the whole point of the challenge anyway right? Not giving a sh!t?

-Scars

Because the whole point is to shock your system into not giving a **** about rejection, and if you're going out while still being scared of rejection, trying to get the "successful approach" and trying NOT to "get rejected", then you're not shocking the system. It's like the difference between doing a cannonball into the water vs walking into the pool.

 

[Packers2010]

i might be down for this message me and we can sort out some details.. i can't do it on Thursday i have tafe all day

 

[JohnChops]

Having no outcome while talking to women is the best way to go. Releases all that pressure you put on yourself (i.e - oh i have to get her number, I have to bang her, blah blah blah).

Just go meet someone new and that should be enough of an outcome.

 

[PDubb75]

I agree that this sort of challenge decreases your approach anxiety. But why not just try and go for the gold, and if you get rejected, just not give a Fvck? I mean, that's the whole point of the challenge anyway right? Not giving a sh!t?

-Scars

I basically agree with you, Scars, but I think it's more the way the challenge is presented. It gives off a "try to get rejected" vibe and I don't find that very helpful.

I think it's better to say "approach women until you get to 10 rejections". This way, you aren't necessarily trying to get rejected, but you will still have a "don't give a sh!t" mentality since you are working until you get those rejections.

Unless your game is brutal (or your face is brutal), approaching until 10 rejections is going to get you multiple numbers. But I think "trying to get rejected" will yield fewer results. You may subconsciously miss a positive sign because that isn't the goal.

 

[Trump]

I just moved to a new city and I am ready to get fvcking rejected! Nothing gets my confidence flowing like a mission to fail on purpose!

The Operation: Get rejected 10 times in one day.

Simple as that.

I am going to do this on this Thursday, August 30th. Who is with me?

Never understood this type of mentality. If your goal is to get rejected 10 times in one day to build confidence, why don't you just spit in their face and then ask them out, you'll get rejected no problem.

Instead of depending on people putting you down to get confidence, which makes absolutely no sense in of itself, you should learn something and try new things. That's the only way to get real confidence, self-reliance. Not depending on other people for your self worth.

 

[pdx1138]

That could really work well though, it's a reverse-psychology to get our hard wired instincts to have less of an influence on us in that regard.

I like it!


It's possible you'd end up with more numbers than you know what to deal with.

Girl: "I wouldn't date you if you were the last man on the earth."

Guy: "I was hoping you'd say that." (Walks away)

Girl: "Hey, where are you going?"

 

[For_F]

Today I was on the bus sitting next to this cute girl. She was reading a book and I kept telling myself to hit her up. I think because the last three girls I've hit up and got their numbers and they ALL flaked, I was very hesitant so I didn't approach her.

Got off the bus thinking wtf did I have to lose? I need to do something like this to wake me the f*ck up. If I don't approach, I'm going to have no chance anyway. Last three girls I have approached I had great chemistry with but they all flaked. Unless I'm doing everything wrong after getting the number then I have to keep trying.

 

[Sofomore]

I am doing this tomorrow, anyone else up for it?

 

[spang]

well i got 3 rejections today. i actually had 1 yesterday and 2 tuesday. the first one today was a real ***** and got smart with me at taco bell. as i was getting my drink...
girl: hey are you 63 they just called it out.
me: oh ok thanks.
later...
me: so how did you know i was 63? (in a teasing fashion)
girl: because you were in front of meee. i was 64. duh
me: oh all right. didnt realize you were paying such close attention to me.
girl:....
she left haha. the other 2 just ignored and avoided me after i spoke to them. biatches...
thats ok though, i feel like i won.

 

[Boilermaker]

Getting rejection for the sake of rejection is backwards, to put it mildly.

I can't solve this problem, so let me fail 150 times maybe that'll teach me how NOT to fail. But it doesn't work that way. And because you go to encounters knowing that you want to be rejected, that takes the real anxiety of a real approach as well.

The real challenge is to do as many approaches as possible; and get as many positive reactions as you can, and NOT mind the failed attempts at all.

I think the path to mastery lies in that direction.

Cheers,

BM

 

[csycpr]

I can understand the reasoning applied here, but I think the real reason behind it is still FEAR. You're not really getting over your fear, you've just found another way to AVOID it.

Nevertheless, I don't want to speak too soon -- this might work. If you try it, let us know how it went.

Also, at the end of the day, even if suboptimal, it's still better than doing NOTHING at all.

 

[PDubb75]

I can understand the reasoning applied here, but I think the real reason behind it is still FEAR. You're not really getting over your fear, you've just found another way to AVOID it.

Nevertheless, I don't want to speak too soon -- this might work. If you try it, let us know how it went.

Also, at the end of the day, even if suboptimal, it's still better than doing NOTHING at all.

Agreed... However, I tried this about a year ago when I was finally ready to start learning what it was like to be single after a 6.5 year relationship.

The thing about it is, yes you start off in a poor mindset "trying" to get rejected. But then what happens is, an approach actually starts going well, and you slowly gain some confidence. You think to yourself "wait, I can actually do this! No point in continuing to 'try' for these rejections when I know I CAN get a number". Then you abandon the original plan and switch to real approaches.

It can happen at different times for different people. But the point is, it will happen.

 

[BMX]

I did some approaches last night. I figured I'd catch the end of the SC-Vandy game and watch others too. I got rejected twice simply because I failed to close/had no desire to with those women in particular. I was given 2 numbers, both by MILFs hahaha. I danced on the floor with a chick and everyone else was watching. Would try this again.

 

[BlackMack177]

I'm in bro. Gonna do it this weekend. My first mission shall be walmart! lol