"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Operation: Approach in the Work?

Dr. Jim

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Riddle me this DJers, there is this chick hb 7 who I want to be a part of my life (I'm also spinning a few other plates too... back up plans don't hurt). I'm pretty sure she wants that to - giving good signs, laughing at jokes I make, strong eye contact, approaches me sometimes, makes reference to my hobbies...

I have approached her many instances and we sortof neg-hit each other. Along time ago, like in may she told me where she worked, and me having a good memory, I still remember... She told me in may basically to come over there after I suggested it. (She also asked about me taking her on an adventure :cool: )

I'm a pretty confident guy I mean I've been on the stage, I've done some crazy ****, and am probably social proof 100. Last week I was planning on ressurecting where she worked as a topic - so that it would seem more like there wasn't a huge gap in her telling me and me going - see I wanna approach her at her workplace but make it seem coincidental as part of a reoccuring joke we have about showing up in similar areas. The plan would be to tell her to go on some date, the key here is not asking - I think she knows I can dominate when I have to and this instance would be a case of doing so.

Does it come of as uber dominant, going to her work (even tho it's 8 months after the fact?) or stalkerish (being 8 months after the fact she told me) there is also the third possibility of playing the coincidence card (I was going to b/c I got a buddy nearby) Oh and I don't possess a car/ability to drive one (hopefully being resolved this month).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dr. Jim

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The only advice I can give you buddy is, hesitation = masturbation. Approaching her at work might come off as strong, but hey you're man right...
 

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iono man a work place jus to let her noe u remember stuff. well iono wut i can say if it's a food place then get sum of ur friends n jus chillaze there r jus like b a dork n find out wut time she gets off so then u'll go by her work place wif ur friends COINCIDENTALLY n jus meet up wif her from there. that's all i got
 

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GROCERIES :D + my buddy lives across the street from the grocery store, never met her tho, they all go to different schools. It's been awhile so she's probably forgot about telling me this **** where she works, so it should come off as "coincidence" ;) then ask her for date that night.
 
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