"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Openers to use on the dancefloor!

nighter

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I have told before about my problem that i eject in unconfortable
situations. Just as reminder here is my old post.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=88041

So i have thought abit about that, and come to the consuclution that i need to feel iam in controll of the situation. To be that its me that need approach. Then i feel like a man, and as iam in controll of the situation, and because i feel my best spot to attract girls in the club scene is at the dancefloor for me, its there i am the most. Ofcourse it will often work not say a word just dance with them. But then i often eject when it starts to get hot. Because i get unconfortable so i need to just make little rapport even if its just a few words.

So what i need is an opener thats feels natural for me to use on the dancefloor, and i know its hard to make an rapport because of the loud music. But just say anyword, because if i just open i know the rest will come naturally. I see guys open girls alot of the dance floor, and always wonder what they say.

The openers i use right now is like. Hi girls, you look really cute here dancing, or i like that and that bla bla. Well it often works but i dont really like thoes openers. Because it feels like i put them on a pedestal when i open with an compliment, but my imagination don't come up with any thing better to open with except compliments.

One time i opened with ooh i like your shoes they look like two polarbears. That worked like a charm but its not often girls have wierd shoes like that :p .

I have also used what do you girls think about the music?
and "Hey sweetie why don't you dancing, this is a dancefloor"

So what i need is more inspiration. I would love some C&F lines to open with. So please post your openers here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Unfortunally, Will Smith took one of the best openers out there and let the whole woman population know about it in the movie "Hitch" (bastard). The one where you give her a dollar, tell her to deliver two drinks to your table and walk away.

Point out a random guy: "That guy who keeps watching you like a Hawk, is he your boyfriend?"
If she says, "Yes". "How do I get rid of him?"
If she says, "no". "Good. He shouldn't get too jealous when you're grinding on me than".
 

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Point out a random guy: "That guy who keeps watching you like a Hawk, is he your boyfriend?"
If she says, "Yes". "How do I get rid of him?"
If she says, "no". "Good. He shouldn't get too jealous when you're grinding on me than".
:woo: I like that one, thanks. I defintly gona try this, next time iam in field. ;)

only problem is i guess i have point at a realy ugly guy. Else she maybe think about him also :p
 
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