"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
opener's for in hs hallways.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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The easiest, most casual thing to say is "Hey!"...Here I'll give you an example.
Me: "Hey!" [casual, not expecting anything out of the convo, just being cool, as if my friend just told me a funny joke]
Her: "umm, hi." [nervous probably, if she dont know u]
Me:
[if you semi-know her] "You know those shoes aren't in style anymore, right?"
[if you don't know her] "Is this Mr.DingDong's Math class?"
Her:
[if she semi-knows you] "haha, whats wrong with them?"
[if she doesn't know you] "Yeah(with a Why? intonation)"
Me:
[if i semi-know her] "Ohhh, nothing" say with a smile and like your keeping a secret from her.
[if i dont know her] "Haha, he's a crazy teacher, has he done <whatever> yet??" important to be friendly/easygoing/and humourous here.
Her:
[if i semi-know her] "You're mean" or something along those lines. There, you're in the door.
[if i dont know her] "Yeah, haha, he's <insert adjective>, do you like him?" There, you're in the door. If she doesn't keep the convo going with a question, ask her one next about the teacher/class. Then you're in the door. Make it brief and casual, leave her spinning.
Me: "Well, thats cool....I guess.....Say.......Wanna fvck?"
lol at that point its up to you, but thats generally how conversations go in the halls. No one's mean to eachother and at the worst will use you as social proof for her friends, it makes her seem more popular for randoms to talk to her.
Listen m8s, it doesn't matter what you say. The whole point of an "opener" is to get the message across that you're a fun guy to talk to and have a sense of humour. As soon as she laughs at a joke you make, or you pick up some IOIs(or whatever), get outta there, jobs done. Period.
Next time you see her, this is when you put your balls on the line. Ask her for her email or cell #, and tell her you guys should hang out some time. IMPORTANT: Don't ask her out, or put her on the spot, she doesn't know you well and will prolly be defensive. Just throw it out there that you think she's cool with an "We should hang out some time", nothing too specific, yet it gets the message across. Home phone is kinda weird in H.S. because parents and siblings use it too. Email or cell is more private.
Recap:
Step 1: "Hey"
Step 2: Be funny, find a detail about her that is humourous, and exploit it, at her expense.
Step 3: Go be busy somewhere else.
Step 4: Email / MSN / Cell
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
-"Stop Security your late for class lets see some Id"
Sometimes I'd even go deeper into it I once had this 2 set moving in slow motion because I told them they were taking to long.
-Walk tap the girl on one side and then go on the other that way when she looks she doesn't see no one.
-"Hey you look strong! your my new body guard I need protection in these halls you just don't know which girl is going to jump out and grab me...so I need you to protect them off of me"
-"Hey, Rebecca I'm glad I found you, there after us again, the Warner Bros are guys are after me because we didn't pay our money for that car you bought me. Look Rebecca here is a paper give me your number, I'll call you win I get the China if I'm still alive. (Get #) Ok now what should I call you when I call we don't know if they tapped your phone so we can't use Rebecca..."Ok now take my arm (Go arm in arm) and we shall walk down there and then break part that way we don't look suspicious those warner bros are tough!...(At this time can just vibe)"
So longs your congruent and keep plowing doesn't matter what they think they'll get hooked soon enough.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Zerotwoonenine
Senior Don Juan
Approach, say hi.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
If you didn't realize in most of those openers I'm roleplaying instantly. That is how you build attraction quickly. Don't go in like a shy mouse charge it like your a fuvking lion.
Its like today this hb9 is talking to a friend of mine and I'm like the only one in my social circle who never spoke to her. I instantly opened and hooked quickly by roleplaying a bit and just vibing. In less than 1 minute I was kinoing my friends never even realized what I was doing they were to busy arguing I could have easily isolated but I then tried to get my friends to leave so it could just be her and my friend that she was talking to.
Everyone thinks they have to go approach all serious but they never realize everyone else is doing it, girls just want to have fun. No need to act all serious if you seen the games that I play sometimes its **** a 5 year old would have fun playing.
Doe Boii
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.