"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Openers for anywhere!

Jukeboxhero

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Hello, everyone.

I went sarging or well, more like I went to the bar last night to hang out with my friend and maybe meet some other friends of mine. However, I'm still having troubles just starting conversations with girls. I mean I can open by simply saying "Hi, my name is xxx" Which may work sometime but if they're already engaged in conversation or interested in something else you have to do something to "create value" as Style puts it.

So I'm wondering if there is any basic opener's that can be used almost anywhere and reliable methods to create value or keep the women interested in you.

BTW, I do use one "female opinion" opener tonight and this is something that has actually made me a few friends in the past but I'm not sure if it made the difference or if I could've used anything.
Regardless, the opener is
Excuse, could I get a female opinion on something. I'm debating whether to get contacts or perhaps laser surgery but my friend thinks I should keep my glasses. So tell me, do you think I would look better with or without glasses."
Now, I used this about 12 different times and got a variety of results, most girls said I would look better without glasses, some said I had pretty eyes or some compliment, others said keep them or do whatever you want.
I only approached one 2 set with this question and one pretty much ignored me while the other gave me a super-detailed background about the choices of Contact lens vs Lasik and wow! she talked a lot..I didn't mind though, I actually learned something which was unexpected.

Anyways. I would love to hear what openings and keeping the conversationg flowing ideas you guys have and if there is another thread that covers this already let me know. I did a search and didn't find much.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lebRambo

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come on dude! youve got a brain! let me tell you this: almost all openers that would mildy interest ANYONE will interest a girl. THEY ARE JUST PEOPLE. f*cking hell! If your parents had to deal with all this crap, do you think you would be around today?
 

thederekeffect1

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Use your creativity. I rarely use openers that someone else has used (I admit, sometimes I use openers I see on this board to see if I can add it to my own collection), but think about it.
1) If no one took the time to think of new openers, no one would have an opener.
2) If everyone uses the same opener, women will catch onto it quickly.
3) It's more fun to think of your own.
and 4) It's a quality women like anyway. Creating your own shows creativity, originality and leadership.
 
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