Taio
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I consider myself to be a pretty charismatic guy and have gotten my share of female attention; however, I don't have too much experience in dealing with the dreaded ***** shield. I personally don't like the idea of neg-hitting, as I think it's a little too indirect, but I *definitely* like the notion of calling a girl on her BS.
Anyways, I haven't tried this approach yet, but it's worth submitting to peer review. I'm hoping to field test it in many situations so I can test how it fits in with different reaction scenarios.
The idea is to approach a girl mostly cold, after some eye contact to establish a minimal connection. Simply go up and say "Excuse me... Hey, you're real pretty; I'd like to get to know you." This should be said cheerfully, almost playfully, not in a deep James Bond type voice. This should not be viewed as an act of supplication, but as a matter-of-fact statement that ultimately gets overshadowed by delivery as a whole - cheerful, honest, direct, and confident.
If this gets a good reaction, great. Just chat the girl up. The real purpose of this opening is not to be an end in itself, but to hopefully bait some kind of *****-shield resistance. This is when you unleash phase II of the attack. Just say something like "Whoa, wait a minute. You don't need to blow me off. Listen, I know you've probably dealt with guys who come up and tell you they like your dress, or try to buy you drinks, and they think it'll make you their best friend in half a second. I'm not fishing for some cheap gratitude here. I just want to chat is all." This could very well take down the shield right then and there. Even if it doesn't, though, you've at least let her know you're not fazed by her coldness. Now follow up on it: "Most girls have to act kind of cold to guys at first because so many annoying guys try to hit on them that it becomes reflexive to shoot them down. It's not like the girl's being mean or anything; it's just a necessity. I mean, you're a nice girl, aren't you?"
Now what do you think she's going to say here? Of course she's going to agree with you and say that she's a nice girl. If she doesn't, you've got a true ***** on your hands, so unload your full arsenal and bust her ego so hard her id gets bruised. But anyway, once she agrees, you can chastise her a little bit for judging you at a glance. Carry on the conversation like this: "See, I thought you looked like a nice girl." Now let her start to say something, and then cut her off. "Wait... You don't think you can just talk to me after judging me like that, do you? After lumping me with all the other idiots?" Say this with a smile that says you're teasing her now, and enjoying your revenge. "I think you should apologize." You could ask her to buy you a drink if you're at a bar or something, as a way of reversing a classic AFC error.
When she does, give her a final slap on the wrist: "Okay, good. At least you're not *totally* jaded." Say it teasingly, with a wink and a smile. Use this as an opportunity for kino, too.
Now you and her should be on a level with each other, and in knocking her down a couple pegs you showed that you were persistent, empathetic, honest, teasingly funny, and DIFFERENT. Even if you didn't knock her shield down, you filtered out a stuck-up ***** and, if you're like me, took a steaming sh1t on her ego, which is always a thrill.
I think I'm going to make use of this approach a few times to check its success rate as soon as I can... I might have to make a trip to the food court tomorrow.
Tell me what you think of this tactic!
Anyways, I haven't tried this approach yet, but it's worth submitting to peer review. I'm hoping to field test it in many situations so I can test how it fits in with different reaction scenarios.
The idea is to approach a girl mostly cold, after some eye contact to establish a minimal connection. Simply go up and say "Excuse me... Hey, you're real pretty; I'd like to get to know you." This should be said cheerfully, almost playfully, not in a deep James Bond type voice. This should not be viewed as an act of supplication, but as a matter-of-fact statement that ultimately gets overshadowed by delivery as a whole - cheerful, honest, direct, and confident.
If this gets a good reaction, great. Just chat the girl up. The real purpose of this opening is not to be an end in itself, but to hopefully bait some kind of *****-shield resistance. This is when you unleash phase II of the attack. Just say something like "Whoa, wait a minute. You don't need to blow me off. Listen, I know you've probably dealt with guys who come up and tell you they like your dress, or try to buy you drinks, and they think it'll make you their best friend in half a second. I'm not fishing for some cheap gratitude here. I just want to chat is all." This could very well take down the shield right then and there. Even if it doesn't, though, you've at least let her know you're not fazed by her coldness. Now follow up on it: "Most girls have to act kind of cold to guys at first because so many annoying guys try to hit on them that it becomes reflexive to shoot them down. It's not like the girl's being mean or anything; it's just a necessity. I mean, you're a nice girl, aren't you?"
Now what do you think she's going to say here? Of course she's going to agree with you and say that she's a nice girl. If she doesn't, you've got a true ***** on your hands, so unload your full arsenal and bust her ego so hard her id gets bruised. But anyway, once she agrees, you can chastise her a little bit for judging you at a glance. Carry on the conversation like this: "See, I thought you looked like a nice girl." Now let her start to say something, and then cut her off. "Wait... You don't think you can just talk to me after judging me like that, do you? After lumping me with all the other idiots?" Say this with a smile that says you're teasing her now, and enjoying your revenge. "I think you should apologize." You could ask her to buy you a drink if you're at a bar or something, as a way of reversing a classic AFC error.
When she does, give her a final slap on the wrist: "Okay, good. At least you're not *totally* jaded." Say it teasingly, with a wink and a smile. Use this as an opportunity for kino, too.
Now you and her should be on a level with each other, and in knocking her down a couple pegs you showed that you were persistent, empathetic, honest, teasingly funny, and DIFFERENT. Even if you didn't knock her shield down, you filtered out a stuck-up ***** and, if you're like me, took a steaming sh1t on her ego, which is always a thrill.
I think I'm going to make use of this approach a few times to check its success rate as soon as I can... I might have to make a trip to the food court tomorrow.
Tell me what you think of this tactic!