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returningchamp

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Last night I talked to this girl I haven't talked to in a few months. We banged a few times but she was a pain to deal with when it came to planning things because shes so busy; she's pretty wealthy and always going places. So i stopped talking to her.

She text me last night and asked if my birthday was around this time. I said it was a few days ago and was impressed she even remembered considering we haven't talked in many months. She also was reflecting on a few good times we had together, which again surprised me because she was so vivid with the details that occured many months ago. Said she thought she was falling for me at one point, but then i just dissapeared.


She was at the beach. I told her we should hangout when she gets back and catch up. She said she'd like that, and said she was supposed to stay until the weekend but was considering coming home tomorrow which is today now. She said she could come over if she did. I said cool.


Short text exchange that just happened:

Me: So did you decide if you're coming home tonight?
Her: Not yet. I'm watching the soccer game, and then going out on the beach for a bit; then I'll make the decision.
Me: Ok, when will you know?
Her: I really won't know until later to see how I feel about driving home tonight. Sorry.


Should i respond to this? If so, how? I don't want to hold it against her since we didn't really have plans but this was the issues with her before. She would always say she wanted to come see me, but would never plan ahead.

Also, what are people's thoughts on dating a woman who's pretty wealthy? I'm not even close to wealthy and she is... Seems to be a lifestyle devide between us, but when together, she seems incredibly into me.


I have another girl who just asked me what I'm doing when I get off work. But she's kind of boring to me and talks too much so I think I'd rather be alone tonight than hang out with her lol.
 

jurry

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Dont say "ok, when will you know".. Puts you on the chasing end. Just be like hey lets hang at x time, if she ends up doin it cool, if she cant or flakes whatever go for other girls. You'll be miserable if you keep pursuing that way and waiting for her like a puppy dog.
 

Harry Wilmington

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The bottom line is, she already said she's coming home this weekend. So, whether or not she decides to come today or tomorrow is irrelevant - either way, she's planning to see you. BUT, if you keep pressing her that she needs to come today, it's going to come off as whiny and a bit possessive and it will turn her off. My suggestion: One, STOP INITIATING TEXT (it kills relationships); and two, don't respond to her current text to see if she's a woman of her word. She said she'll hit you up - in ********, that means "Please stop asking me, your text are starting to get annoying and I don't want to be annoyed by you since, at the moment, I already know I want to see you this weekend." So leave it alone.
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
The bottom line is, she already said she's coming home this weekend. So, whether or not she decides to come today or tomorrow is irrelevant - either way, she's planning to see you. BUT, if you keep pressing her that she needs to come today, it's going to come off as whiny and a bit possessive and it will turn her off. My suggestion: One, STOP INITIATING TEXT (it kills relationships); and two, don't respond to her current text to see if she's a woman of her word. She said she'll hit you up - in ********, that means "Please stop asking me, your text are starting to get annoying and I don't want to be annoyed by you since, at the moment, I already know I want to see you this weekend." So leave it alone.
Harry is the man! I reply to your podcasts and send you emails too many times. :p

But I was going to say the same thing. He messaged her asking when, and the last line, I could tell with the 'Sorry.' one word sentence that say was getting very annoyed. :(

I think that's the best thing. Leave it at that, and let her miss you a little bit. Let her wonder what you're up to. Some girl and I were interested, but she went with a guy who was close to her. This could have been distance AND me accusing her of liking him and that put the idea in her head 'Wow maybe I should like him...'

I left it at that, they had their fling, and now she is dying for me - writing love notes and driving 4 hours to see me. She keeps wondering what I am up to. She even tried telling me I was needy and I kept denying, I stopped replying and she finally said "I think I'm just jealous".

By not replying, it isn't playing games... it is letting the other person do what they want and achieve their goals. When you crowd someone too much, it gets annoying. Especially if they don't like you. I didn't like my ex and she crowded me so much (I like that with women I DO like) that I was banging my head on the wall. Now since she left me go for a while (she still messages me asking to visit her), I am curious and I'm starting to miss the fun times we had, and yeah...
 

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She's leading you on.

You disappeared (good move), she reconnected to see if she still had your interest and you more than confirmed this.

Mind you, as others have said, you shouldn't have pressed her for an answer. You could have used this to gauge her level of interest, to see if she actually came to see you.

Forget about any details she mentions, words are meaningless with women. Only pay attention to her "actions." So far, she's not that into you and she can probably sense your insecurity about being with a wealthy chick (not necessarily this fact, but your behavior is probably somewhat needy).
 

returningchamp

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Thanks guys. I did send her one more text

Me: Don't worry about it. There's always other days. No worries.
Her: I know but if I come home tonight I defintely want to hangout.

I didn't reply to that.

About 5 hours later.

Her: I'm just going to stay at the shore tonight. (kiss face)
Me: That's fine. Have fun.


I was actually happy she was because at that point I was with the girl I said I'd rather be alone than hang out with. She's cute enough, but very annoying. So... solution = Keep something stuffed in her mouth!

I had no idea what i was going to do if she text me she was coming home. So glad I didn't have to figure it out.



As far as me being insecure about her. There's some truth to that, but it's not so much that I can't handle her. It's more that I know I can't keep up with her. She's very wealthy. She's always doing stuff. Like festivals, beaches, random trips across country, or to other countries... She invites me sometimes but I haven't taken her up on anything. I'll feel like her child tagging along or I'd end up draining my bank account, which isn't really worth it. So it's a bit of an insecurity, but it seems legitimate.
 
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