open relationships for true happiness

[The__Substitute]

Heres the thing I believe its human nature to procreate and make the species survive. This means we are hard wired to want to **** as many woman as we can............All chicks are *****s that like to **** just like their bfs..... basically people are *****s and the idea of being in an exclusive relationship is some form of primative rule some past leaders created for financial gain or possibly other reasons.

What it comes down to is people are ***** and always cheat or will always think about cheating....Why not allow it but be honest about it...We are only taught that cheating is bad I believe you can unlearn to think that way.....

With an open relationship you can have your relationship with the person you connect with on an emotional level and physical but still be allowed to get your ass on the side to satisfy your primal instincts...its weird at first knowing your chick is ****ing others but if you realise its just sex......simple as that.... a **** in a ***** and nothing more....What is so wrong with that and I believe thats the only way to be truely happy in life. you get the best of both worlds

I am currently converting my chick but its not going as easy as I planned she wants all kinds of rules like no ****ing in my bed or car but Im working on it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's easier just not to commit to a relationship in the first place. Why bother getting into something that implies commitment when you don't want it?

 

[The__Substitute]

because i have the urge to want a steady gf too ..... kind of good chick you love but I know I will always want to have sex with others

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

because i have the urge to want a steady gf too ..... kind of good chick you love but I know I will always want to have sex with others

Aren't you making things difficult for yourself by not choosing between two seemingly polar opposites?

 

[backbreaker]

you have the urge to have some type of confirmation.... it's never a good thing to have the "urge" to have a steady GF... I like women. I like women too much to commit to one that doesn't just do a dornell jones and "knock me off my feet"

humans by nature, aren't meant to have one partner.. at least men. Only in the last couple thousand years has this been practices.. i don't try to fight it.

until I meet a woman that I literary want to spend all my time with, I'm not going to fight my entire life trying to put a square peg in a round hole.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Not everyone is into cheating and being a slut.

 

[backbreaker]

cut the tv off. The only person you cheat is yourself if you don't provide yourself with all the options you are entitled to. It's this illconcived rationale that women have you by the balls by.

It's not like women don't know I see other women... I just refuse to commit to anyone because they haven't' done enough to be worth committing to. That's alot better situation to be in than not following your urges and doing what comes natural and being miserable in the process.


Read the DJ bible. women would rather share a worth man (trust me) than to have a pathetic AFC to herself.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...humans by nature, aren't meant to have one partner.. .

It always amaze me to hear this. It's said such like "humans are meant to breath air and not water" as is having multiple partners is necessary for the survival of humankind. Yes, procreation is necessary however is it necessary to procreate with more than one person? As it stand now, we are far from extinction, actually there are more people out the who are parents who shouldn't have children (but that's just a personal opinion).

Now don't get me wrong, if you feel that you enjoy life more so with multiple sexual partner the line starts here behind me. Is it human nature? Not for me personally, I have enough control over my being to commit when I choose to. No need to use human nature as a scape goat.

If you'd want to state what women in general would rather have, they would rather have a worthy man driven by personal conviction who is able to commit to fidelity than one who is driven by uncontrollable urges. And if a man is controlled by simple urges, is he truly worthy?

Just something to consider.

 

[backbreaker]

the line starts here behind me

lol, I gotta use that one. you are missing the point however.

I never said I couldn't control myself.. what i am saying is....

WHY?

If I meet a woman, who I like sleeping with (ovbiously) but has not proven to me that she is a snug fit into my lifestyle, my life, and that she isn't worthy of me committing..WHY SHOULD I COMMIT TO HER?

One of the 48 laws of power... Do not commit.

to be honest, I wuld love nothing more than a leggy petitie redhead that loves horse racing, can cook, give ad amn good massage, a nice hummer, and I can have in intelligent conversation with her, and her life has some purpose. She wuldn't be going anywhere, I'd lock her up.

but until that woman comes along (okay doesn't' have to be a redhead), I'm not committing.

alot of guys commit because it's 'WHAT YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO DO".. I don't. I'm perfectly happy being alone (and by default single), i get enough satisfaction out of life where I don't long for a relationship to give my life meaning. I would love nothing more than to share my life with someone, but it would have to be someone worth sharing it with.
that's what I am saying

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

lol, I gotta use that one. you are missing the point however.

I never said I couldn't control myself.. what i am saying is....

WHY?

If I meet a woman, who I like sleeping with (ovbiously) but has not proven to me that she is a snug fit into my lifestyle, my life, and that she isn't worthy of me committing..WHY SHOULD I COMMIT TO HER?

I'm right there with 'ya! Too often guys commit for the wrong reasons (like a woman agreeing for a second date ). Go out, have fun, test the waters of many rivers, lakes and oceans. I'm just not one to say it's just human nature; that we were meant to do so.

We've no longer neanderthals, we have the ability to choose so why not be proud of whatever choices we make because it's in our ability to do so? Why give it less than its due by just saying that our actions are only that of nature and not of our individual spirit?

To the point of the original poster though, if you don't want to commit why get into a relationship? Why go through the motions if that is not your intent?

 

[Serialized3]

We've no longer neanderthals, we have the ability to choose so why not be proud of whatever choices we make because it's in our ability to do so? Why give it less than its due by just saying that our actions are only that of nature and not of our individual spirit?

I love it. The ability to change our nature is one of the things that separates us from the other animals.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I love it. The ability to change our nature is one of the things that separates us from the other animals.

That and choice, the most powerful human trait; yet it is seldom used in its full potential.

 

[backbreaker]

I'm right there with 'ya! Too often guys commit for the wrong reasons (like a woman agreeing for a second date ). Go out, have fun, test the waters of many rivers, lakes and oceans. I'm just not one to say it's just human nature; that we were meant to do so.

think about the logic of what you are saying... the more we go on the more I think we are on the same page but are just saying it differently.

I'm not saying it's my manifest destiny to fvck 100 women at a time. What I AM saying is I'm going to court, and have fun until that woman comes along, and if she doesn't, I didn't waste life I lived it. What I am saying is that we were meant to have options... men have sticks that fit into into many holes and a woman has a hole that cofirmes to one stick.

As a matter of fact, I think I'm better than most, because I actually TELL a woman I'm fvcking someone else. you can either accept it, try to earn my love/respect or move the fvck on. That tells me alot about you as a person to not understand where you are coming from. most hot women you meet are fvcking someone else when you meet them, they will after you meet them, and many will WHILE you are dating them.

But past that, the opposite of what you are saying is to settle down with the closest thing we see to us...