Open Relationship; or Stay Loyal?

[foolyoufool]

Hey all,

I've been lurking on this site for a while and I've decided its time I post.

I'm in a LDR with a great girl, and the next time I'm going to spend time with her is in a month. We are in a closed relationship, so we are both staying loyal to each other. We have discussed the possibility of an open relationship, and although she doesn't want it, she said she would be willing to do it if it was something I wanted to do.

I'm a college student (so is she) and lately I find myself really horny for other girls, to the point where I am considering opening up our relationship. Although she says she is open to the idea, I know this would hurt her terribly, as she is deeply in love with me.

There is a possibility of her coming to my school next semester, and I would hate it if opening up the relationship would cause us to break apart. I care for her a lot too. BTW, probably a major point here, this girl took my virginity, and is the only girl I have had sex with. But it is very enjoyable sex for both of us, nonetheless :woo:

So: Should I make it an open relationship, or keep it closed? Any thoughts, comments, or ideas would be appreciated

 

[women haze]

You are wasting her time man. She could be with a great guy break up with her, and let her be free..

This is what I believe, If you want to be single stay single get all the f!@#ing out of your system. You aren't Mature enough for a serious relationship.

If you want to keep her then do it the right way man...come on stop all this s!@#.

Break up with her man

 

[Serg897]

Either do an open relationship or break up with her. Its not fair to her that you are thinking about sleeping with other women. I recently had this problem myself and I just ended up dumping her - if Im not in it 100%, Im not going to commit to her knowing that Im going to regret every missed oppurtunity to get with other girls that come along.

 

[ArcBound]

What does your gut and instinct say ? Don't lie to yourself and see which answer you gravitate more towards. Your instinct never lies to you.

 

[foolyoufool]

UPDATE

Thanks for your advice guys. Just today I finally decided to end things between us. She is coming to my school next semester, but I feel that I did the right thing.

 

[coochieman]

Improve yourself significantly now since you seem new. Well, we all are and that is why we are here. Learning never stops.

You called "break-up!", do not fucck it up crawling-back, contacting or crazya$$ sh!t.

I do not think the break-up would really hurt the chances of you still milkshooting her pound-hole next-semester. She should still have the hots for you and this temperature level would depend on how much better or worse you've gotten in comparison with before.

And if she doesn't, who cares eh?