Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Prodoge

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Currently 20 at uni and I keep falling into the same patterns: wasting doing useless things and being lazy.
For example when i should be doing schoolwork i end up spending 30 minutes messing around on the phone, watching tv or whatever.
All this wasting time leads to lack of motivation to do things like get out there and socialize.

How can i reduce the time wasted on time sinks because mostly I fall into them unconsciously ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Buy yourself two books the willpower Instinct and the power of habit. Read them lots and then apply
 

speed dawg

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Currently 20 at uni and I keep falling into the same patterns: wasting doing useless things and being lazy.
For example when i should be doing schoolwork i end up spending 30 minutes messing around on the phone, watching tv or whatever.
All this wasting time leads to lack of motivation to do things like get out there and socialize.

How can i reduce the time wasted on time sinks because mostly I fall into them unconsciously ?
Wish I had the answer. I am 35 and I still do these things, it's my biggest hindrance to success. I know how to remedy it as well, it's just.......VERY HARD. No way around that. You WILL be inconvenienced if you want to break through the cycle.
 

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I use the pomodoro method when I am working on something which helps me focus. The method behind it is you do 25 minutes of focused work. No distractions. Phone stays on silent and in your pocket. The only thing in front of you and to your attention is anything that pertains to your work. Then after those 25 minutes, you take a 5 minute break doing whatever grabs your attention.

You do this for about 4 rounds and then take a 30 minute break. After that you repeat the whole process.

25 minutes of focused work
5 minutes of distraction
4x rounds
30 minute break and repeat

I noticed after I got into a groove of things, I started ignoring the 5 minute breaks because I was so focused at the task at hand. You literally have to force yourself to take a break.

Give this a try and let me know if this works for you :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pomodoro method is a great app for the smartphone. If I'm disciplined and stick to it, it's helpful to stay focused while studying or on a certain task. Using that app and ambient music or soft piano/classical/instrumental helps me stay in a focused zone.

Also try a time block. So if you want to study at 7pm, then start at 7pm (or on time). No excuses. Remind yourself no casual internet browsing, social media, youtube, whatever while you're focused on task. You have to reinforce self-discipline to not get pulled away by distraction to stay on task and accomplish what you want to get done.
 
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