ONS - Should I try for more?

[dmvdav]

I went to a party Friday. It was pretty lame but it didn't stop me from attempting some game on 2 girls. Girl 1 didn't pan out, but girl 2 was really into me. I'll spare the details but after some making out on the dance floor I hopped someones fence and we did some stuff in a random persons abandoned back yard. Later we crashed at her friends place, where we sealed the deal. I fell asleep on the couch and when I woke up she was clinging to my side like a koala to a tree, wearing just her tee shirt and panties.

Nothing was awkward at all in the morning. We hung out for a bit, made out a little and I got her number before walking back to my car.
Not trying to get serious with her, but for sure want to hit again.

Should I text her for a date and try to get her as a plate, or would it be better to forget her? High chance I will see her soon at a party, and I'll for sure be seeing our mutual friends.
That's why I can't decide what move to make. Being friends with these girls has always led to me getting laid so Im trying to figure out the best move for my reputation aka not getting labeled as a guy who sleeps around.
Thoughts?

Btw: her friends don't know we fvxked, unless she told them after, which I doubt since she was asked to not hook up with me on the new couch. They most likely think we just made out.

 

[TheException]

Should I text her for a date and try to get her as a plate, or would it be better to forget her?

Why the he11 is everyone obsessed with "next-ing" girls? Its like no matter the scenario, everyone ponders "next-ing". Look pal you hooked up with a chick...in most peoples book thats a good thing and doesnt warrant a "next". Just hit her up with something like this:

You:"Hey, had fun the other night. When are you free next week to get together and hangout?"

Doesnt matter what you guys do, considering you already slept with her. Just do something that has the potential to lead to sex again. Go on a date if you want....or invite her over your place.

Btw: her friends don't know we fvxked, unless she told them after, which I doubt since she was asked to not hook up with me on the new couch. They most likely think we just made out.

This made me legit LOL^

Your naive if you think her friends dont know....girls blab about everything to their friends. Ive had mutual friends tell me "sooo i hear your "talking" to so and so" and thats literally the day after we would have hooked up.

 

[dmvdav]

Thanks for the advice, I'm gonna use that text in a bit.

It's funny because when I typed that last part I knew I was gonna get called naive. Of course I know girls talk, I'd expect it under almost any circumstances.
What makes this different is that the girl who lives there is really prudish. Not in the "secret slbtty" way, but the legit only made out with two guys but had three relationships way. She would actually be mad if we fvxked there.

I guess it doesn't matter either way. Usually I would hit a girl up after, and when I do we date for a while. I just had second thoughts with this situation for some reason.

 

[dmvdav]

I sent her that text yesterday afternoon and didn't hear back, so I figured that was that.

She just texted me, over a full day later.
"Hey it's pretty busy this week actually. Can we do next week? Othrwise, I could do dinner, lunch or tea on Thurs"

I can't think of any reason why it would take a day to respond. Usually I feel very comfortable texting, but this really threw me off.
What would you do/say?

I'm kind of over it, at this point but curious about it.

 

[TheException]

I'm kind of over it, at this point but curious about it.

Yaaaa id be too. Maybe her phone died or something although not likely....regardless it doesnt matter why it took a day to respond. Even her response was lukewarm.

What would you do/say?

Worse thing you could do is overpursue/act needy. Id say this:
Her:"Hey it's pretty busy this week actually. Can we do next week? Othrwise, I could do dinner, lunch or tea on Thurs"
Me: "No big deal. Text me when you figure out your schedule next week and we can get together then."

Then no texting until you hear from her. If she never does...no big deal, its her loss. She might just be on the fence about you, and perhaps playing cool and laid back will be a breath of fresh air for her.

 

[dmvdav]

Even her response was lukewarm.

This is mainly what threw me off, because i would've expected some excuse for waiting a day to get back to me. Usually when a girl takes a long time respond (never had to wait a day though) she gives me an excuse like "left my phone at home before work" or "sorry my phone died."

My feelings are telling me to just not respond at all. The "desire" I had from the ONS is pretty much gone now.

But at the same time I'm really curious if i'd be able to turn her into a plate, just for the practice of doing it.

 

[TheException]

My feelings are telling me to just not respond at all.

Then dont.

Following the gut instinct is often the correct decision. Even in the past when i was beta backsliding all over the place, i KNEW that i shouldnt text a girl....but would anyways. If you do decide to respond...say something like i gave you as an example above. If you decide to not respond, Im fine with that...she could always text you again.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Id reply: "Yeah we'll see for next week. I'll give you a call." And then never call her. She would have to contact me first. She was unenthusiastic and deserves that in return.

You said you wanted to keep your rep among her friends, the way to do it is to be nonchalant about all this and (if she doesn't seek you out) wait for the next social gathering where you can play the field and weigh your options. If you try too hard to make this into something, you will be seen as either clingy or an "item" with her, so you can't have any other girls at those parties for a while.

 

[dmvdav]

You said you wanted to keep your rep among her friends

Yea this is my main "concern."
I will for sure see them again, her too most likely. Of course i'd rather have her wondering about me than telling her friends i'm clingy.

I'm pretty sure not responding is my best move, since her lame response did not make me excited to talk to her again.

Realistically, how long do I have to text her back?
Could I just her back in a few days with something like "works been crazy this week. Looking forward to having some time off. I'm free Friday, lets grab drinks."