Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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might have caught something off her. it was about 2 weeks ago, unsafe sex, and im just getting symptoms now. she doesnt sleep around a lot, infact i think i was her second, so i thought if we're both clean i don't need to wear a rubber, bad mistake i know. im thinking now, it's not even worth it, because this has ruined the past two days.

anyway.. can you get antibiotics over the counter? i dont wanna have to take the umbrella test, that hurts like hell

advice/info/a few words telling me how stupid i was?

go ahead
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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oh yeh i asked her about it and she said she's clean.. but she hasn't been checked so im not convinced

is there a chance it could just be a minor infection that will go away on its own.. i think i had something like that exactly 1 year ago (the person i slept with before her)
a few weeks after it i got symptoms, i went for testing and the tests came back negative

it went away on its own that time, and the symptoms i've got now are very similar to then

please help.. i've got my exams coming up and can't focus on them
 

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you still think you were her 2nd? it takes a certain degree of slutiness for a girl to give it up on the first night, so if she does it's safe to assume she's ridden her fair share of c.ocks. Hence, no rubber in a ONS situation is NOT a good idea

As far as getting tested, you can do blodd work at first and then, if they don't find anything and you still have symptoms, you ll have to do more "invasive" tests...

EDIT: i didn't see your second post... how many (alleged) STDs do you need to catch before you learn that you have to strap with any girl who you're not exclusive with?
 

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it wasnt exactly the 'first night' though.. the title's a bit misleading. i've known this girl for a while. and she's frequently told me she likes me. im sure she doesn't just sleep around with anyone, i know her well enough to know that. i've never had sex with anyone on the night i first met them either.

if you suspect you've got an sti can you just skip the tests and go on a general antibiotic for a week or whatever it is? im sure things would quickly clear up if i was on them

and what do you mean by more invasive tests?? :/
 

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Get tested now.

After seeing what I did in my Human sexuality class, I know that you do not want to wait for it to go away on it's own. In fact both gonorrhea and syphilis heal on their own....and come back with a vengeance. Get tested and get the correct treatment.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Go get tested for real. And no I'm pretty sure you can't get antibiotics OTC, that would be irresponsible. Go find out what you have and treat it specifically. Just sitting and hoping it will go away is ludicrous.
 

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i know i know. this is the busiest week of my year too! D:
and im struggling to find a gum clinic, the nearest one is about an hour away
gonna be an all day trip by the looks of it
 

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randalll said:
is there a chance it could just be a minor infection that will go away on its own.. i think i had something like that exactly 1 year ago (the person i slept with before her)
a few weeks after it i got symptoms, i went for testing and the tests came back negative

it went away on its own that time, and the symptoms i've got now are very similar to then

please help.. i've got my exams coming up and can't focus on them
Yeah, there's a chance. If you're uncircumcised you might have gotten balanitis which is basically a fungal infection due to the friction tenderizing the skin and then retained moisture leading to a (usually) minor infection. If it's not really serious it goes away in a week or so as long as you wash up with water and keep it dry and don't mess with it. You can look it up in Google images... hopefully that's all you have!
 

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nah thats not it, i dont have those symptoms.
im thinking its the clap, but that's what i thought last time and the tests were negative. i should have pressed them for an explanation then. ever since i've had mild urinary problems.. like needing a piss right after i've just been :/
 

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oh yeh i asked her about it and she said she's clean.. but she hasn't been checked so im not convinced
Women lie. She may not even know.

Get tested.

Always, ALWAYS, use a condom. It doesn't matter if she says she is clean, or if she says she's been tested, women can LIE. They may not have been tested, they might not know. HIV can take 3 months to show up in a blood test.

Even if you know her well, you don't know everything she does. BE CAREFUL.

you still think you were her 2nd? it takes a certain degree of slutiness for a girl to give it up on the first night, so if she does it's safe to assume she's ridden her fair share of c.ocks. Hence, no rubber in a ONS situation is NOT a good idea
Read that twice. If she screwed you on a ONS, she could have done that every weekend for the past 5 years. Gambling is fun, but not when you're gambling on your testicles.

im sure she doesn't just sleep around with anyone, i know her well enough to know that
That's what a lot of men think.

You need to get tested so you can be prescribed the correct antibiotics.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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im sh*t scared of hiv, i dont even want a test i'd be that nervous. i will get the regular std tests though, and become celibate for a while, what a mess
 
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