"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Only two more times to see oneitis, anyway to get?

Maxtro

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The semester is almost over and I'm only going to be able to see her Friday and Monday unless I do something. I've basically talked to her everyday in class but I've never seen her outside school and I don't have any of her contact info.

Are there any good ways or reasons for me to get her phone and or email? Also I know that we will be taking the same math class next semester but it is offered at 4 different times so there is a 1 out of 4 chance that we would be in the same class in January. I'm thinking about trying to persuade her to sign up for the one I'm going to be in. But honestly I don't want to go a month without seeing her and odds are we won't be in the same class.

I would love to make plans with her over the winter break.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zzeitgeist

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just go up to her and say "lets grab a coffee sometime over the break, give me your number". (dont ask for the number, assume she wants to give it to you)..

Just fookin do it man.
 
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It's called "asking her out". NOT to be confused with "eating her out".

You didn't know this already??
 

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Alternatively you could be very AFC and find out where she hangs out or when she's in the library then stalk her. ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Maxtro said:
Are there any good ways or reasons for me to get her phone and or email?
sexual intercourse is usually a good enough reason for me... you could disguise this notion by saying "lets hang out".
 

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...by the way Maxtro, you did know that having a oneitis is a bad thing right??? Its a negative term....

I wonder how many times this oneitis of yours is gonna get fvcked by other guys during winter break... hmmm

LOSE your oneitis dude... in fact GET RID OF HER... This is nothing but trouble... you've already thought/obsessed too much about her, you've already psyched yourself out. Stop looking for that disney/hollywood romance... fvck her, shes pissing me off (lol)... go get on the game, and run some train....
 

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Heh I know oneitis is bad but this chick has sent me back a few stages. Everything I thought I've learned here basically gets lost when I think of her.

I also forgot to mention that she is in a long distance relationship. Thats why I haven't asked her out yet. I've been waiting for it to fail and thus giving me a chance to move in, but somehow they've kept it up. So I figured I might as well make a shot now because soon enough, there won't be any more days left. So I'm trying to be sneaky and stealthfully move in close to her under her radar. I basically want to be close enough to let her think she's almost friendzoned me and then I'll attack from the inside. A Trojan horse if you will.

I've asked for a reason because I'm afraid of getting found out before I can get close to her. I've had terrible experiences of girls finding out that I liked them and then they hated me in return. Granted that was many years ago in Jr. High and High School and I never talked to those girls (unlike this one) but those days still haunt me. I think that if I can become her "friend" I have a better shot.

For the record I hate oneitis and I think it is a terrible affliction. Yet I keep getting infected. Normally I would be content to let the feeling die and never make a move. But this chick is something else. Physically she's a 10, well maybe a 9.5. She also has a cool personality that matches well with mine. I feel that I've spent too much time talking with her to let her disappear like a common person.
 

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Yes I want more from her than to be just a friend. I'm just thinking of ways that I can get close to her. The coffee thing seems innocent enough and I don't think that she will get the impression that I want to date her. Right now I don't want her to know that I like her, even though she may have figured that out by now. I wish this was a Disney movie where I could just confess my feelings to her and we can be a happy couple, but of course that doesn't work in the real world.

Right now I just want to be able to spend time with her.
 
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