"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Only ****ed sluts want to settle down

BabyFaceComplex

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I havent really ever gone on a date with a decent girl, I have only ****ed sluts always on the 1st date and had some FWB relationships.

I am unsure how to find a decent girl, I know I am suppose to raise my standards I think, do they mean looks or like the girls fashion sense??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Masculinity

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Well, when you push for sex on the first date, you may be scaring away babes with long-term potential. The good girls (and they do exist in small quantities) are very unlikely to sleep with guys on the first date and avoid players like the plague; any hint that you are promiscuous or "good" with girls and you are out the door. Don't be blatant about your skills--a good DJ knows when to go underwater and when to fire in public.
 

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do they mean looks or like the girls fashion sense??
do you really think fashion girl make a good mother for your kids ?
if you are looking for a wife then look for beautiful/kind/submissive/with moral women .
if you are looking for what Western culture called quality woman or classy woman then sorry I don't even know what that mean
 

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Robyn923b said:
any hint that you are promiscuous or "good" with girls and you are out the door.
So I should act like I have only banged in the single digits??

Like blush and be a bit awkward on a date cause thats how I feel I should be but I have ****ed so many sluts, been friend zoned so many times, hard wired to escalate and such.

I got a cute face so I dont think I can come off as decent unless I act a bit awkward and nerdy.


EDIT to post below:
I cant reply again in 24 hours.

I used to meet girls through social circle and on the street.
 
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Masculinity

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BabyFaceComplex said:
So I should act like I have only banged in the single digits??

Like blush and be a bit awkward on a date cause thats how I feel I should be but I have ****ed so many sluts, been friend zoned so many times, hard wired to escalate and such.

I got a cute face so I dont think I can come off as decent unless I act a bit awkward and nerdy.
First of all, you do not have control over involuntary impulses such as blushing and stuttering, so that's not an option. You are taking it to the extremes: either being a blatant hypersexual guy or an emasculated guy--neither is likely to work on the on the long run. A balance of the two, self-respect, and high standards will get you far, though.

Getting friend-zoned is an inevitable component of the game; regardless of how good one is, there will be girls who are either not interested in you or have a partner already. Do not take it personally if she rejects you; remember that she is rejecting your approach, not you as a person.

Where are you meeting these girls, OP?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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BabyFaceComplex said:
I havent really ever gone on a date with a decent girl, I have only ****ed sluts always on the 1st date and had some FWB relationships.

I am unsure how to find a decent girl, I know I am suppose to raise my standards I think, do they mean looks or like the girls fashion sense??
Stop meeting girls online and in clubs/bars/other meat markets.
 
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