"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Only asks me out for drinks

melinda1122

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OK, this guy had been flirting with me for several months whenever I'd see him out. (Long stares, smiles, etc..) I finally gave him my number and we have met each other three times at a bar. We chat for about three hours and then he leaves around 12- 1 am. He walks me to my car, acts like a gentlman, and then leaves. It's weird, he told me he thinks Im very attractive but wont make any real moves on me and wont tell me when hell see me next. He just emailed me saying he is going away on business for a month and asked to "take me out for a drink." before he leaves. Once again, he did no ask me to dinner. Is this weird? This guy is not shy, he'd blatantly smile at me all the time before we actually talked and has no problems asking for a hug when we meet, putting his hand on my back, etc.. But yet he doesnt appear to be looking for a physical fling as well... Is he even interested?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ricky

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Well there are two scenarios.

One is that he's shy or not very experienced with women. That's still a possibility. I remember in my early 20's that a girl need to just about rape me since I wouldn't make the next move.

The other option is that maybe he has a girlfriend or is married already and is feeling a bit guilty about escalating. That's not quite as likely but still a possibility.
 

lookyoung

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A woman on the donjuan forum?????????????????// What the hell is this world coming too. Are u fukking kidding me. She should be banned ASAP.....LOL. Please guys don't give her any advice....
 

LA_Chico

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speaking of woman on the DJ forum, what happened to Luke Skywalker bros?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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CrunchyNut

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Maybe he found out who is father is?
 

Lust

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You have to do something.

Since he's most probably AFC, you gotta give him a nudge, why don't YOU suggest a dinner?

Give him tight hugs, get touchy alot more, stuff like that.
 

xomel

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next time you see him just bring along a strap on dlck... then when hes not looking kick him in the nuts and start taking off his pants and bang him... if he says no... then get him in the mood by fingerbanging his peehole.
 

DJF or John

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Lol, man, why are women on Don Juan forms asking other men how to seduce men? Lol....:crackup:

(DJF raises his hand) Oh, oh, Melinda, pick me, I know the answer!
(Melinda picks DJF):
Okay Mel, let me help you out.

I want you to take your mouse.....and you see that little red X in the top right hand corner of this screen....see it? Take your mouse and go up to it....are you there yet?

Okay, now click that button.

Problem solved.

(In reality, don't give a woman advice on dating gentlemen. Please? It really is quite stupid. See, women see dating differently than we do, TOTALLY. And most of you guys don't even understand yourselves yet to try and understand women, so just stay out of shyt like this, okay? When a woman comes to you for dating advice, laugh at her and walk away. Got me?)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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