online women - to getting a date

[Demonicale]

Ok so whenever i talk to women online and get they're number, i never kinda really know at what point is "ok" to arrange a date with them?.

Yeah i know the whole internet dating thing is ass and whatever else people may say about it.

But once you guy's get they're numbers, how long before you ask about going out?

Thanks

 

[LoneWolf]

lucky for you this is how i met my current gf. i had like two chats with this girl for like 5 minutes each time and the second chat we had i told her lets arrange something and get together and got her number. i think i actually set the date up while we had the chat... either that or call after a couple days after you got her number (before the weekend) usually saturdays are the best for first dates man, or any date for that matter. but we met up on friday night for a coffee at about 7pm. just call and tell her you'd like to catch up for a coffee on friday or saturday, whichever is good for her. if she is interested she'll let you know when is good for her. good luck!

 

[Demonicale]

lucky for you this is how i met my current gf. i had like two chats with this girl for like 5 minutes each time and the second chat we had i told her lets arrange something and get together and got her number. i think i actually set the date up while we had the chat... either that or call after a couple days after you got her number (before the weekend) usually saturdays are the best for first dates man, or any date for that matter. but we met up on friday night for a coffee at about 7pm. just call and tell her you'd like to catch up for a coffee on friday or saturday, whichever is good for her. if she is interested she'll let you know when is good for her. good luck!

Thanks Lonewolf, i've asked 1 of the girls if we can arrange something, the other girl i'm going to ask abit later.

I think i'll do what you said, after a few day's i'll phone them.At the moment i'm just txting abit here and there.

 

[LoneWolf]

okay, just go easy on texting. should only really text once to arrange a date or call. the texting comes later after you've had a few dates. too much texting will push her away.

 

[spinaroonie]

It makes a difference if she's initiating the texts. IMO you can build a lot of attraction over text, to the point where much of the work is already done by the time you meet.

Don't overgame.

I’m curious if the girl wound up going to this emailer’s place the next day, or if she flaked at the last minute. While this text exchange has (mostly) the right frame, it smacks of overgaming. And overgaming can quickly activate a woman’s anti-slut defense. There is a lot of back and forth here with a girl you haven’t even had a date with yet. Reading this, my initial impression was “entertainment monkey”. You’re feeding her snappy alpha quips with the calculated smoothness of someone who knows this will stroke the psyche of his mark. And she knows you know. The risk here is getting LJBTed — Let’s Just Be Teases.

Overgaming is usually poison to a pickup when the girl is very high value. Hot chicks experience the pleasures of smooth alpha operators more frequently than do lesser girls. Your clever retorts and masculine lack of punctuation are nothing new to the hot chick. She will enjoy it and place it in her mental pile with the rest of the suave suitors. You need to bring something more to the table, and that something is *escalation*. Escalation is what separates the men from the dilettantes. Establish your frame, parry her **** tests, laconically disabuse her of the notion that you can be boxed in beta-wise, and then cut the flirty courtship short either by exiting prematurely or forcing the seduction forward into more dangerous psychological and kinesthetic territory.

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/07/26/overgaming/

 

[Demonicale]

It makes a difference if she's initiating the texts. IMO you can build a lot of attraction over text, to the point where much of the work is already done by the time you meet.

Don't overgame.

Yeah that's what i was afraid of, messing itup over txt.
But your right, you can build more attraction if done right

1 of the girls say's she's all booked up for 2 weeks .. i just said sure, that's cool

Although it does'nt sound too good haha

 

[Demonicale]

Quick question, girl tell's me she can't meet for 2 weeks and has asked if i have any dates next week.

Should i say i have or not? .. lol

 

[LoneWolf]

you'd be dumb to say you have. she obviously wants to arrange a date with you. tell her you're free on a certain day next week (the week shes asking you about)

 

[Demonicale]

you'd be dumb to say you have. she obviously wants to arrange a date with you. tell her you're free on a certain day next week (the week shes asking you about)

I ask as i did'nt want to sound like i have no options.
I just said i'll check my diary .. lol

She said i was a funny ****er ... i think it's cool .. if not, i'm not bothered i'll move on

 

[ELMER_GANTRY]

This is how I do it, and I usually have had great results from it. I always wait a week till after we started texting/talking, unless she says "Let's hangout" after the first or second call then I schedule a date ASAP and most of the time girls ask me that "we should hangout." This is vey useful because you get to build a good rapport with her and most of your work is already done. More importantly, you can gauge to see what this chick is like even before you meet her and you can weed out the chicks that have issues like bpd etc. because a lot of chicks online do have problems with bpd and stuff like that.