Online girls who chat endlessly

[SoSerene]

How do you handle women you're talking to online that are presumably interested, but keep using precursors like "you don't even know me yet!!' and when you ask them out say things like "ya sometime, after we get to know each other more". And it's not like I asked them out on the first message, after 3-4 replies and some banter I ask them out and get these responses sometimes.

From my experience these type of chicks tend to be time wasters, or not that interested. Do you guys invest time in these leads at all or just move on and ignore?

 

[AttackFormation]

They're either looking to waste your time, or moronic. Move on in either case.

 

[ubercat]

Agreed. More than 3 messages without date setup = kick to curb

 

[nismo-4]

They just want your attention until that bodybuilder she messaged responds back.

If I get any of those precursors after 3 messages, I move on in lieu of disinterest. Would a woman use these precursors for Channing Tatum? Not at all.

A woman is only really interested when she says yes, follows your lead, and all her actions back it up.

Case closed. You can do better than pointless chatterboxes.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Use them the way they use you, they are precious when Im sitting at the restaurant waiting for my meal or in the queue to join some place...once you are in, just stop writing.

Use them the same way they use you, also when you stop asking for a date their hamster powered brain will get a short circuit and they will bait you into asking them out, you keep avoiding it and they will.

Then you invite them to join you in the place where you are already so even if they flake or are late no big deal.

 

[Yewki]

They just want your attention until that bodybuilder she messaged responds back.

It's either this or as a previous poster alluded to they're inexperienced/stupid.

The latter of which are usually sheltered from reality and emotionally immature. So yeah, either way a waste of time.

 

[icantgetlaid]

Good post .. in my experience .. these girls are simply not worth the time ..

My first message goes something like this:

"hey whats up blah blah blah blah"

when they respond ..

my next message is "I'm icantgetlaid -- what's your number, i'd like to text/call later when i have more time to talk" ... (where i will typically ask them out on a date)

If their response doesn't include a phone number ... I next them

Initially, in my earlier days, i would chat with these girls who "don't feel comfortable giving out their number right away" .. and i don't remember any of these situations ever leading to sex/date.

A girl who is attracted to you will give out her number ... "lets chat/get to know each other first" is usually code for "i have lukewarm interest in you"

 

[SoSerene]

yeah seems like we're all in general agreement. I was trying to think of any examples of success when a girl gave me a flaky excuse before giving their number or meeting up...and none of the top of my head. I have had a couple that gave me their emails first due to being apprehensive about giving their number to online strangers, and I did end up meeting up with them. But in that case they at least gave a legitimate counter offer and displayed interest in going out instead of a deflective "maybe later let's get to know each other more first!" style response.

 

[Yewki]

But a truly attractive woman will rarely ever re-initiate conversation after I've went ghost on her.

Yep, her pride and plethora of other options will likely stop her from pursuing you. Even if she finds you attractive.

 

[RecoveringNiceGuy]

Tell her she sounds like a fun person (or some other bland compliment) but that you need some proof she's not a 40 year old overweight man with an entire wardrobe full of Ed Hardy T-Shirts (or some other goofy stereotype). If she insists she can do that without meeting you tell her she can fax you two forms of government issued ID, long form birth certificate, two of her most recent pay stubs, and three personal references (preferably other hot single chicks), or that she can just meet up with you in person.

Of course, if she's interested it won't be like pulling teeth to get her number, but if you want give it more effort standing your ground but being silly about it is usually the best way to get results.

 

[nismo-4]

Enter the judge.

in my experience this is rarely the case. When I cut them off, they rarely ever re initiate the conversation.

Of course that's the case because when one guy withdraws, the girl will cry until the next 7 guys show interest and give her attention.

The good news is, there are always a gazillion more girls that I can invite for drinks.

True as that is, but they still gotta say yes obviously.

But a truly attractive woman will rarely ever re-initiate conversation after I've went ghost on her.

She don't have to. When you go ghost, and she's lukewarm or less interest, you just saved her the trouble of cutting you off. It's all about her interest in you.

Read betw- you know the drill.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Be blunt. Tell them that endless messages is not getting to know someone. Tell them to date you or gtfo, more or less.