online dating

[afc_destroyer]

what should be the rules for online dating?? do you guys have any general guidlines for me to follow?

well I met a few girls online and we,ve been talking on the phone for about 3 weeks now. i tried to ask when shes free so we can go have coffeee but they seem scared or say they are too busy right now. this is getting annoying because i hate talking on the phone if i dont know what they will be like in persons. i mean i did see thier picture but only thier face.
talking on the phone i can sense that they are hot and have full of confidences. so my question how do i go abouts getting off the phone and going on a date asap??
should i tell them "look i knoe you are a busy women but you must have 30 min of your time for me". " lets meet up wednesday at 10 pm sharp this is you r chance, its now or never."

any other way i should say it??
help needd guys , ive got no patience

 

[echo1212]

Your best bet is to set something up asap. IF she doesnt want to meet, then move on. My brother used to meet girls online all of the time, and his number one piece of advice was to talk on the computer and phone as little as possible. Many times you will see guys talk to a girl he met online for hours on the phone, get up all these high expectations, only to finally meet and hhave you or the girl not like one another. You feel as though you wasted alot of time and effort on something that turned out to be a big fat 0. Talk to her briefly, set up a date, go from there. If she refuses to then shes an attention ***** or a flake and not worth your time.

 

[afc_destroyer]

they keep saying they are busy

and i jsut say alrite ill call you next week and see if you are free.. but you are right icant stand waiting, it kills the chemistry.

so one rule is getting to meet in person as soon as possible.
but how do i go abouts getting them to meet up??

 

[echo1212]

Very simple, you call her up-you tell her that you would like to meet for coffee or a drink one day this week, what days are good for you? Then if shes interested in you she will give you her free days. If shes just a flake or not interested, shell come up with all kinds of excuses, and you move on. Either way, you end the drama.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Re: they keep saying they are busy

Originally posted by afc_destroyer
and i jsut say alrite ill call you next week and see if you are free..

You're giving them a way out. Most people will put off anything that might, in the slightest way cause an element of risk. They just don't want to deal with situations, even if they sound promising, because its risky. Kind of like when as salesperson asks for the order, if they are not totally convinced, people will respond, "let me think it over." They keep using that response because IT WORKS MOST OF THE TIME. By you saying "ill call you next week and see if you are free", they don't even have to give you a no, they just keep putting it off.

Stop doing the things that don't work for you. Chances are that they will never work. Make sure you hang up while still at a peak in a phone conversation. Most guys wait too long because its going so well, and the girl eventually hangs up on them. If you leave at a peak, guess what? She might tell her girlfriends about what a great guy she's been talking to, and be excited, and her friends will tell her to go for it.
The truth is that it will never be THE PERFECT MOMMENT. So, yes, the best thing is to try to meet soon, and not waste your time.

 

[afc_destroyer]

another good advice

always end calls 1st when in a great conversation..\

yeah i ve been trying that and it works great. shes like no dont hang up pn me already?
i tell them that if it doest work out in person im gonna run away lol// i think this scares them.

well what is a good way to ask them so they wont give up this once in alifetime chance to meet me.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Rule #1-Always get a pic before meeting.

Rule #2-Get the phone number as quickly as possible, preferably by the second email or instant messenger exchange. If she won't give up the number then move on.

Rule #3-Girls who are interested in meeting won't be giving you this "I need to get to know you better" crap. If you hear this line then move on.

Rule #4- Once you've gotten the number then ask only twice for a date. If you ask twice with no counteroffers from her then move on.

By following these 4 rules you'll weed out alot of the internet time wasters.