It has sort of been like a leaky foscet with me. However, I am not really trying at this time.
It's very rare that I get any women initiating any contact online, and with that respect it sort of hurts my self-esteem more than it does help because it seems that I'm putting too much effort to get very little results. I'd imagine that other guys with better pics or snappier profiles may be getting better results.
Otherwise, I feel that most women are getting lots of attention, smiles and emails and it seems like I'm competing with all these guys and because a woman can have 400 guys after her on lavalife, while I'll lose credits sending emails girls dont respond to with noone initiating anything, futhermore with all the attention these women get super-picky with respect to standards and it would seem, that even if I'm lucky enough to meet anyone in person, that they will likely be seeing five or ten other guys that they are also setting up meetings with in a week, while I may be getting one or two responses a month if I'm lucky that end up in meetings.
I think some or lots of women also have their guards up, and are jaded due to encounters with players which makes the odds even more difficult to finding a normal nice woman. Obviously, with the sheer amount of attention, most women would obviously fall for players who know what they are doing, get jaded after, and you are left with damaged goods online who are cynical about men while they would pass your profile in the first place.
So, looking at the overall picture I dont have anything really positive to say, unless you meet that rare woman that's doesn't have you as another number and there is some mutual attraction. It would seem like you are looking for a needle in a haystack with that online system, or would have to go with some damageds goods girl that people aren't running after, like a single mom or something to get a quick-fix.
For the record, I am dating someone, a Christian choir leader girl, I meet from plentyoffish, and it seems that she's sincere and I was the first person she meet online, and it doesn't seem like these issues persist there. Again, it may work better if you are going after girls that not every single guy is chasing if just looking for a quick-fix, otherwise it would seem rather difficult to meet an attractive, quality chick that isn't super-picky or has you as one and ten people she's meeting, while she may be the only or first person you are meeting.
I think there are many ways of meeting women, and meeting people face-to-face in your own social circles or even in public can work if you just over the fear of rejection - and to me it always feels good to approach someone you like - you get a buzz, or action in that, but online it's up in the air.
The thing is that compatability assessment says no and even contacting the ladies is an uphill battle because if they took that test they will rely on it despite what my profile description says to the contrary.
