"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJArlington

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I am using an online dating site to meet women. So far, I've met one girl online and met her in person and things went really well. I was wondering though - what are the online rules? If someone pings me on the online dating site, should I wait a few days to respond? Should my emails contain little details about myself?

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MikeEdward1973

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There's like a million opinions on this. But, my 2 cents is that it's fine to respond the same day. Just don't make it look like you're sitting in front of your computer 24/7. Within 6 to 12 hours is just fine. Some guys will tell you to wait 24 hours or something, I wouldn't worry about that, if you're truly self-confident.

In terms of details, I usually send one standard paragraph with 5 or 6 good sentences talking a bit about myself, what I do, etc. And then close with a couple questions for her.

But - at the end of the day, you don't want to trade more than a few emails before asking to link up for a drink, coffee, etc. Name of the game is to get offline fast.

Just to clarify, I send that more detailed paragraph as a 2nd email, not a first.
 
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Andy_Dufresne

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What worked best for me: A funny story on your profile that illustrates what you are about (i.e. I used a story about my kids) but doesn't give away the store.

2 emails max. "Hey whassup" kind of stuff, spread it out over 3-5 days (same day is wayy too soon - show them you have a life) - get a number close ASAP, get their ass in a seat at Starbucks ASAP.
 

DJArlington

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Thanks guys. I'm going to keep patience and will send max one or two emails, will get them on the phone, and will try to meet up with them ASAP. I replied to one of the girls right away and she responded so I'm okay, but with the other one who is a total hottie I responded right away and haven't heard back. We'll see what happens. What I'm noticing is that once I pull back I'm usually okay.
 

Paradox

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Like everything else on this board it is not a science and there are not hard and straight rules. as long as you don't seem desperate (live or online) you should be ok.

Do a search because there are some gold nuggets about online dating buried in this and the Main Discussion forum.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SoCalMike

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Keep the emails brief, and strike fast - ask her out right away. There is only a small window of interest before the next 10 dudes email her.
 

cedd

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I used online dating over the last few years with great succes and I do agree with some replies here.

2 emails MAX could one of the major rules.
first email = approch with some funny things and commentaries about her profile. keep it short.
if she reply with IOI (questions about you etc...) then send a couple of days later a second mail and ask for a phone number.

corollary : don't waist your time with girls that are not interested.

minimize the time online to maximize the time offline.

cheers
 
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