Online dating is changing

[mr. kennedy]

I get the number of a solid 8 on OKcupid.

We text back and forth and then ask her to meet up. She says she doesn't meet up easily, we have to talk first. I call her the next day during her break, tease her, the whole bit. She's laughing. At the end of the call I propose the day and time to meet up. Her answer:

"I don't meet up that easily. I liked our convo but we will have to talk more. Never did the online thing before, I'm off the site now. I gave my number to 4 guys and will talk to all 4 before making a decision on who to meet. I'm in no rush to meet anyone. I like to take my time. Let's keep in touch, call me tomorrow".



I feel like I'm on the bachelorette or involved in an interview process.

 

[mr. kennedy]

That's what I thought. If she's interested, she'll text me.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I got this line once before and I nexted her. Funny thing, she realized I had become indifferent. she started chasing me and changed her whole tune about "waiting for a date."

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

"we will have to talk more."

I got this line once before and I nexted her. Funny thing, she realized I had become indifferent. she started chasing me and changed her whole tune about "waiting for a date."

 

[zinc4]

I know...this is a big problem with online dating...sometimes it forces you to put in more effort than a rela life meeting would require...many chicks require that you chat with them a lot before you meet them and if you don't then they will write you off as more of a stranger than other guys they chat with frequently...

Online game is beta game at best...the guys who like to text and chat more will do well as long as they have good pics....however, if the pics are equal or close to equal, she will meet the guy she feels like she is more familiar with as long as he hasn't acted too needy....that's why i don't take online game seriously...i will just drop a message to them here and there and then after a few days of back and forth messages ask for the date....but seriously, some of them literally require that you sit on your ass and chat them up for a few hours before the meetup....i just don't have the patience for this...also if you try and secure the date too soon they lose interest quickly more times than not and will go with the guy who has been wasting hours chatting with her each day or night...online is more beta game and requires patience....

I prefer real life much more...in real life i don't need the BS chatting and texting..i make my big first impression and then set the next date up and then do very very little texting if any from there.....

With that being said, i have a few online projects i am working on from scout the online phone application...

I have a date set up tomorrow but i have great reason to believe she will flake...i pulled the date trigger too quickly with her and she is already saying she could have work tomorrow....if she flakes i have another online chick who is pretty hot who i banged a few weeks ago who literally asked me if she could come to my home tomorrow..in fact, she is hotter than the potential flake based on the potential flake's pics, but new ***** is always more exciting than old...

however, i have another one that is quality that is set up for this coming Wednesday...i chatted with her for a good hour and a half so i put in the road work...my goodness i hate online chatting at times....but it's a solid meetup, i can tell

And i have about 5 other girls who i have just been patiently dropping and replying to messages here and there during the last 5 days or so and each one's interest level seems to be upping after each day of dropping messages...online dating is without a doubt beta game....no wonder why naughty ninja liked it so much...if you have decent pics and are patient though you can have good success....my primary arena is still night clubbing though and in person situations...

 

[sigma335]

You: "I know what you mean, I am the same way. Ok, have a good night"

Then don't call back. She has your number.

^^^Solid and online dating has always been like this for females(attractive females).

If you're a guy doing online dating you better be spinning 4+ plates or you're doing it wrong.

I know...this is a big problem with online dating...sometimes it forces you to put in more effort than a rela life meeting would require...many chicks require that you chat with them a lot before you meet them and if you don't then they will write you off as more of a stranger than other guys they chat with frequently...

Online game is beta game at best...the guys who like to text and chat more will do well as long as they have good pics....however, if the pics are equal or close to equal, she will meet the guy she feels like she is more familiar with as long as he hasn't acted too needy....that's why i don't take online game seriously...i will just drop a message to them here and there and then after a few days of back and forth messages ask for the date....but seriously, some of them literally require that you sit on your ass and chat them up for a few hours before the meetup....i just don't have the patience for this...also if you try and secure the date too soon they lose interest quickly more times than not and will go with the guy who has been wasting hours chatting with her each day or night...online is more beta game and requires patience....

I prefer real life much more...in real life i don't need the BS chatting and texting..i make my big first impression and then set the next date up and then do very very little texting if any from there.....

Seriously do not waste time with the chicks who are not serious about meeting soon or require you to chat them up. I had a chick who was surprised I wanted to meet so soon. Told her "Well life is short" she turned into a good fuk buddy.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

"I don't meet up that easily. I liked our convo but we will have to talk more. Never did the online thing before, I'm off the site now. I gave my number to 4 guys and will talk to all 4 before making a decision on who to meet. I'm in no rush to meet anyone. I like to take my time. Let's keep in touch, call me tomorrow".

Yeah this is the reality for any attractive girl on an online dating site but most won't overtly say it to your face. What an A-hole. Next.

Actually she did you a favor by saying it to reveal what she's like. Still an A-hole though.

 

[Big Nuts]

If your talking to excrement like this, you better be spinning some serious plates!!!

 

[zinc4]

The only good looking ones worth a damn who will meet you really quick i find are really really into your pics and are attracted to your type looks wise.....the rest of them, even if they regard you as good looking or very good looking take a while to chat up before they decide......like i said before, club game is much quicker and easier..

 

[like2jam]

You definitely have to be careful how much time you invest in the chatting world before meeting up. I think this girl has the wrong idea and she'll learn pretty quickly. You could chat for ages and after that first meetup, either you or her could decide that you're not attracted to the other and bam, it's over before it started. And now you've spent all this time chatting, invested in this fantasy of what the person is about or like. I say, the sooner you can meet, the better. In my experience, it doesn't take more than a few messages before you're ready to ask them out or get their number.

 

[HedoRick]

I've noticed the same thing. However, just a short while ago, online loons would meet me without thinking twice. One particular weekend, I had 5 dates scheduled..

However, things have seemed to change recently in my area... I even set up a phony account back in Virginia to pull numbers for an experiment. Same thing- they would not give up the number even after 6-8 email exchanges. And if I did get the digits, it was "I have to know you better" before I meet up with you.

In the past, it was either a short phone call, or a few text exchanges back and forth, and it was game on.

Now I have pulled some digits here and I am meeting a chick tomorrow night and sunday. It just seems like it's a lot more work than it's worth.

I don't put much faith in these meets though, and while I am talking to these chicks I am pulling as many side numbers as I can. I am texting 8 girls right now, because I simply don't wan't to invest much in any one online chick. And no, it wasn't that easy getting those 8 numbers at all. At one time, 8 numbers was 2 evenings of online dating. I grabbed these over the course of a week and half.

Times are changing, or maybe online dating is just slower in the summer.

 

[The Duke]

"I don't meet up that easily. I liked our convo but we will have to talk more. Never did the online thing before, I'm off the site now. I gave my number to 4 guys and will talk to all 4 before making a decision on who to meet. I'm in no rush to meet anyone. I like to take my time. Let's keep in touch, call me tomorrow".

Let me translate this.........."The online thing was overwhelming and full of too many creepers. I was talking to 4 guys that were ok but non really make my 'gina tingle. Until something better comes along, I'm going to make them all jump thru hoops and when I'm bored and need some self validation I might go out for free drinks/meal with one. But for now, keep trying cuz I like the ego boost it gives me."

Guys- a girl that is truly interested in you will not tell you stuff like this. She will do practically whatever you ask of her. She won't play these stupid games. Once a women obtains a man she feels is a great catch, she will snatch you up as fast as she can so no other woman can have you.

Girls like this are a waste of time. You might get lucky but the return on investment just isn't there with these types. Use your time/energy finding something with a better rate of return. All these types do is frustrate you and turn you off to all women in general.

The last time I went after a girl like this was with this HB8 cougar. She was a former coors light model. Short and thin, fake boobs but at the end of her hotness career. She was on a dating site for a few short weeks and was overwhelmed and gave up. She gave her number out to me and 2 other guys and tried to make it into a competition to secure a date with her. I played along. Talked to her on the phone several times. Went out on 4 dates with her over the course of 2months. Would watch football at her house on Sundays. But the whole time, she would have nothing to do with anything sexual. On one of our dates, she told me I could have gone out with 2 other guys tonight but I wanted you to know I am going out with you. "Lol, gee thanks biatch" is what I thought. On the 5th date I finally pushed the sex and was successful. There was no passion during sex. She didn't even get wet.

I never saw her again after that and that was by my choice.

The moral of the story here was she just didn't find me attractive enough to rip her panties off, throw all caution to the wind, and dive in with all her emotions. I jumped thru a few of her hoops, was persistent, and played the game well. In the end I was awarded a "cookie". It went down very much like those bachelor/bachelorette shows. My time and energy would have been better spent pursuing other prospects.

When a woman wants something she gets all emotional about it and reacts quickly. Its like finding a pair of shoes she gets all wet over. She doesn't try and go about it in a rational manner and "talk to all 4 guys before making a decision".

 

[The Duke]

As far as online dating goes, I did it for 5yrs and noticed it always slowed down during the summer months. Girls are at the lake, at backyard gatherings, out in public with less clothes on, etc. so they are getting the extra attention they crave. They don't need to date.

 

[HedoRick]

You've been doing the online thing much longer than me. I do appreciate the insight... I was thinking it rather odd how the whole online thing could change in such a short time. Summer theory sounds about right.

Moral of the story, abandon online dating completely in the summer and hustle completely out in the field...:rockon:

As far as online dating goes, I did it for 5yrs and noticed it always slowed down during the summer months. Girls are at the lake, at backyard gatherings, out in public with less clothes on, etc. so they are getting the extra attention they crave. They don't need to date.

 

[Stagger Lee]

She wants you to invest all that time and effort before even meeting up while she holds the reigns and one of the folowing is likely to happen:

1. You never meet. She capriciously decides to meet up with some other guy and has sex or starts dating (she even admitted she has 4 guys she is choosing from).

2. You meet eventually but she is not interested in person or less likely vice versa. (this is why it is pointless to wait long to meet).

3. You meet up and all that comes of it is a one night stand (a lot of effort for just a one night stand).

These women want to be courted as if they're virgins choosing a husband. That would be one thing if that was the case, but they're essentially sluts for a short term fling at most. They don't deserve the effort. Most of the time these girls have a fvck buddy or are fvcking some guy(s) while you are "courting" them.