"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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imaluvnit

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Ok guy's, here go's. I had my first date with this women thats a few years older than myself (not a problem) I think she's pretty hot. I must mention she chose me to chat with and eventually go out on a date and I agreed, and knowing ahead of time that she is very well off as far as money is concerned. With that being said I chose the place to meet and when she showed up and I saw her, I said to myself Damn #3 is the charm. We had great conversation and definetly had a lot of chemistry. During our conversation I noticed she kept touching me a lot, and playing with here hair a lot, and every chance she got she would get closer. We had lots of really good eye contact, nothing felt uneasy at all. I closed the check out and walked her to her car, things got a little uncomfortable for a few seconds and then she just grabbed me and then it was on, we were making out for a little while, then I sent her on her way, right before she left she told me you have my number call me. I'm wondering if this situation can work out considering the lifestlye she is use to. I'm going to give it my best shot at seeing how it go's I'm just going to play it real cool. Any suggestion's or comments welcome, just trying to still pick up pointers that will help me. Thank's everyone.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amoka

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First of, congratulations. Be careful though... you're 48 and she's few years older than you which means she's at lease 50 years. With her status and age, you should be concern why she is single. You can have her at a FB or let her be your cougar and do the buying instead of you doing the buying. She wants emotional company... don't be both her emotional and financial provider. With women, the moment you start taking the tap when you go dine, the more she'd expect you to pay.
 

Von_S

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if she's 50+ I'm guessing she's divorced, if not then that might be a red flag. However, she's got money, she got there on her own so don't worry about supporting her. She's not a college student, she's a mature woman, more importantly, you're a mature Man. You keep your money in your pocket, she keeps her's and you date, screw go on trips whatever, you're both established, so just roll with it.
 

imaluvnit

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Thank's Bible Belt, I believe you are right and I will figure out a way to make it happen. It should be good i've had a dry spell for a while since the old lady ran off. I sure hope she's got a couple of days to rest up she's gonna need it HA HA. I'll report back in due time.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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