"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Online dating and younger women

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I am a 37 year old male and like a lot of guys 30+, I am not interested in dating women from 34 to my age and older.

I know women like older men since I get looks from younger women in public and I know a dozen couples off the top of my head (not Hollywood either) that have anywhere from a 7-14 year age difference (the man being older of course). I don't think trying to get a girlfriend 7-12 years younger than oneself is unrealistic if you are confident and in shape. A 37 year old going after 18-23 year olds, sure I am too old, but 25++?

Online it seems to be a different story!

I am on POF and I noticed ALL of the women who are interested in me range from 34 to 42!

BTW, I am a moderately attractive guy and can pass for 30, so it is not like I am 37, but look much older.

Any one else experience this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sodbuster

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yeah, online they look for a REASON to disqualify you.... to sort out all the men talking to them. In PERSON, I do better.
 

Knight's Cross

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OLD is to be used to "augment" your pool. I'd say my current hit rate is 85% in person and 15% OLD pickup. It's much easier to start a conversation live. OLD is overly populated with beta's that give women a over inflated sense of value. However that same pool of Beta's won't dare strike up a live convo with a dateable woman at the grocery store.
Advantage: Live pickup.
KC
 

Tenacity

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I actually do pretty good with online dating in terms of the "quantity" of converting them to numbers and live meets and sex/short term relationships. The quality is just low. Very rarely do I get a chick that fits my requirements. This might not be an issue in relation to online dating, I think this is a marketplace issue across the board.
 

020204

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I find online dating to be an invasion of privacy to be quite often, it is not free and often gets access to facebook accounts. I have also notised that even if you don't have a photo and get classified by age group. This can be a disadvantage if you are older and look good because you can be matched with some absolute hags, had this happen recently and couldn't disconnect my account quick enough, personally I have had much better success with approaching people in person and then chatting on facebook.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dany500

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We do great along with online dating sites with regards to the "quantity" connected with renovating those to amounts along with reside complies with along with sex/short term associations. The standard is simply low. Incredibly almost never should i have a chick that fits my own prerequisites. This kind of might not be a problem in terms of online dating sites, I do believe this is a industry problem along the panel.
 

MattR1984

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I think when girls get to a certain age and they want to settle down longterm try do want guys on the 30 to 40 range. I would say 26+ should be your aiming area. Hell I only date 25 to 28 year olds myself. In person and online pickups. As far as online dating goes. In about 4 months of trying eharmony out I only met one woman who was gf/wife material. But she obviously was looking for something like in a fairytale story. Alot have crazy expectations.

The others I dated around with and hooked up with all had some type of issues with them. Personal problems, etc and most women who find on a dating site will remain on that dating site while you're dating them regardless of your labels if you have any. Cereal online daters.
 

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Get out and see the world, the best way to meet young women is face to face, in another country. I've never dated a woman older than 24. Most of the dates that have ended up in the bedroom have been from women 18 to 22.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Yellowstone,
For years I have maintained that Prietos Rule of 80/20 prevails as it seems wherever,human choices are involved....
This has been reinforced by reading Christian Rutters research sourced from his unique position as owner of OK Cupid...Women,whether Old and wrinkled or HB 10's, find one Man in Six attractive...Cop that young Harry!
 

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Reduce your age on your profile. If the subject ever arises as to why you lied about your age, say "Thats what liars do, they lie." Strong frames weather any storm.

Problem solved.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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KingBeef

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guru1000 said:
Reduce your age on your profile. If the subject ever arises as to why you lied about your age, say "Thats what liars do, they lie." Strong frames weather any storm.

Problem solved.
Thats an awesome answer.... :crackup: "Hey girl, I just had to do what I had to do to lure you in" rofl
 

Rubirosa

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I'm not sure if there's any legal ramifications to that, probably not, but I've seen several profiles that list a certain age, but then if you read their profile essay, they go on to say..."Oh, and by the way, I"m a little older than my listed age....."
I met this one hot Asian on match. Her profile said 35.....She never stated her real age. She turned out to be 50! (Still hot and a good lay BTW).
 
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