"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Online dating and age discrimination

Jean Valjean

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I have found that younger women will not respond to older guys ( 7 plus years) online. I look and feel young and want a vibrant younger woman 10 or more years younger. Has anyone else had this expereince and how have you gotten around it. I have heard that alot of men say they are 3-10 years younger just to have a shot at it and not just all the tired old cougars.


I find that it is easier to meet younger women in person because they can see that I look and act way younger than my age number.

What to do? Some guys lie about a few years then if really in love she should overlook it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sodbuster

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Online dating sucks. The women there seem to look over your whole profile looking to find a reason to DQ you. I can date 21 year olds in person,but have 35 year olds tell me I'm too old on the net
 

Jean Valjean

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sodbuster said:
Online dating sucks. The women there seem to look over your whole profile looking to find a reason to DQ you. I can date 21 year olds in person,but have 35 year olds tell me I'm too old on the net

yes that is true. In real life if the chemistry is there it works ...but online you're dissected and inspected for everything

if you want younger women you have to cut a few years off your age I think

the only women contacting me have been older or 2-3 years younger thats all
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scaramouche

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Dear Jean,
Don't have too many hopes about On Line dating,put your age down six years,you can tell them about the mistake on your second date...Income well yeah about $60 grand anymore and you are inundated with Phillipino Bar Girls,any less and you will only get Trailer Trash....truly don't have expectations,but use the medium as a way of developing conversation lines fleshing out your needs and what you offer in exchange.
Meet as many Girls as possible,try Women from different racial backgrounds,its all valuable for real life and the Women you meet in the Checkout Queue or the Library,always look your best and carry a notebook.
 

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I don't get online dating. Its too much like ordering a book off Amazon. No body language, no tells, no ioi - other than typewritten bollox.
It just doesn't seem natural to me.
 

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I have some pretty good luck with online dating as far as numbers go, (dates) but the women in my age group have fairly nice bods but they can't hide the age in their face. I just rack it all up to getting more experience and eventually getting to the younger stuff, I love it it keeps me highly motivated. And as far as hooking up with the younger ones and by that I mean around 30 or so I have my best luck meeting them in person, its only been a couple so far but you gotta start some where. Lets all keep trying and reporting back in so we can get better at our craft. Props guys.
 

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Jean Valjean said:
I have found that younger women will not respond to older guys ( 7 plus years) online. I look and feel young and want a vibrant younger woman 10 or more years younger. Has anyone else had this expereince and how have you gotten around it. I have heard that alot of men say they are 3-10 years younger just to have a shot at it and not just all the tired old cougars.


I find that it is easier to meet younger women in person because they can see that I look and act way younger than my age number.

What to do? Some guys lie about a few years then if really in love she should overlook it.
Sounds like age discrimination, on your part too.

If you can discriminate on age, so can they. So you have older people only wanting younger people, and remaining older and alone, on both sides! How silly! And then you have older people lying about their age to get what they want... on both sides! Don't think that the hot 29 year old you met wasn't really 35!!! Women lie about their age ALL OF THE TIME, and men are usually never the wiser about it.

Too bad we have such stigmas about age in our culture.
 

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Online dating is bs, many good looking women who are 8-10 HB are there to squander free time and to get attention from AFC's to boost their own ego.

Stop wasting your time and go meet people in real life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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