Online dating - Advice needed

[DJArlington]

All,

I am trying to get women to respond to me online.

I usually write messages like the following:

"Hey! How are you? So you live in Maryland - I grew up in Rockville. What do you think of the site so far? I've been on for a while and have met some really cool people. I've even made a few friends.

What do you do for fun? Where do you hang out locally? Have you traveled recently? I went to Alaska back in August with my parents and sister. We had the best time.

Your profile sounds interesting and I would really like to get to know you.

Hope to hear from you"

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Is this message okay? Should I say something different? These women are in their mid20s, as am I.

Thanks.

 

[duke007]

I think you ask too many questions.

The first message should be short and sweet...and preferably some sort of witty remark about something they said in their profile.

 

[Soma]

Word billy, b!tch.

That has to be one of the most boring emails I've yet read. If YOU were a hot girl would YOU respond to that sh!t? No, you'd trash it.

Also, way too many questions! Ask one, question. NO MORE. One the second email go ahead and ask up to two questions, but NO MORE and one should be inquiring about her, the other should be at the end to get her number.

Set the tone of your email so that you're ****y/funny yet direct and interesting. On the second email get her number. Not AIM names, not emails accounts...give her your number, tell her to call you tonight and also get her number.

If she resists giving the number on the second email, lightly make fun her but be firm in saying that you're not looking for an email relationship. Tell her that she has your number and when she's ready to have a stimulating conversation to give you a call.

Don't email her after that AT ALL. If she calls you, you're set. If she writes back and says "Ok, here's my number..." you're set. Call her THAT very night. If she writes back and says she won't give her number, drop her. Don't even write back. If she doesn't write back at all, again, drop her completely.

I do this all the time so, yes, this is something that actually works.


-Soma

 

[Dukester]

dont do online dating. it will get you nowhere but trouble. statistics arent very high for that sorta thing.

 

[squirrels]

See my post on this thread for all the advice you'll ever need on online dating.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=58902&perpage=20&pagenumber=2

 

[Soma]

Duke, please don't give advice you're not qualified to give. You're a blind man trying to lead another blind man. Stick to learning everything you can for now. Eventually you'll be able to dispense advice, but today is not that day.

 

[MrBond_Age]

Originally posted by Soma
Eventually you'll be able to dispense advice, but today is not that day.

*cough**cough*

 

[S0LID]

"nice profile and pics" works for me.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Dukester
dont do online dating. it will get you nowhere but trouble. statistics arent very high for that sorta thing.

Especially if you don't know the rules. Go in like an AFC, you're going to be trated like one.

Read the link that was posted in a previous message and also search the forum for online dating. There's a ton of information out there that works if you implement it correctly.

 

[Soma]

Originally posted by MrBond_Age
*cough**cough*

How'd your physical go?

 

[NRM]

You are showing too much interest in her WAY before she even gets a chance to be interested in you. And you know what that spells out to a woman?

D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-I-O-N.

It's simple. If this is some sort of picture exchange thing then send her a LITTLE note, one if not any questions. You still haven't qualified her, why should you waste all that time displaying your interest? If anything she'll wonder

"Why isn't this guy all interested in me like the rest? My picture is beautiful. I must find out."

Basically, if she's interested in you, you'll know when she sends you a message.

I'm not to keen on online dating. Never done it before, but I figure all of the basic stuff in real life works the same way. I would never walk up to a girl and give her all the buying signals without seeing at least one buy from her.

 

[Vandnumbers]

I just started doing it this week, but what I do is I see what they like in a guy (from their profile) and send them a message saying the exact opposite, but as a joke. Also if you don't like their interests tell them why. Don't find anything in common, point to the opposites instead and the women actually try to wrestle you down for straight answers and want to find common ground. Don't give it to them.

 

[p1aya]

I, personally, think that "online dating" is good for practice and nothing more! Like others have said, don't ask too many questions!