Hi guys, regular visitor round here, but first time poster...I'm just looking for a bit of advice on how to proceed in a situation with a chick. I'm recently out of a 5 year LTR, and back into the game after a few months of working out, seeking other pursuits etc.
This chick and I met online after she messaged me first (she lives about 80 miles away) -we've messaged each other via text for 2 weeks now. The chats have been pretty sexually charged from early on -we have also exchanged pictures. I always make a point of not being too available, pretty cool, with just the right mix of C+F. We have a very good rapport.
Now, she's also seeing a guy too, which Is why I have not called her (she requested I didnt) - she says things are 'stale' with him, and she keeps threatening to leave him etc - But I feel she's in too deep with the whole 'house together (renting)' and 'anything is better than being alone' mentality. There are also days on end with no contact from her, i.e. her guy has been nice to her and she feels badly guilty etc. Even now, I haven't heard from her for 3 days.
If I'm honest, she's good fun, articulate and 'cultured' (i.e. she has many interests in her life, and isnt dumb or shallow). She's probably a HB7 or 8, nice body, pretty face, and has a bit of a nerdy look going on - I like this in a lady. We have lots in common, and I guess I am just looking for some fun with her, rather than a LTR, so the boyfriend thing doesn't bother me. I don't exactly get to hook up with many women right now, due to work and my mechanics course (it's all guys!)
We support the same sports team - she doesn't live near enough to attend many games, but is in the area next month, and keeps dropping hints about her and me going out after the game around town with others, and us two getting a room together in a hotel..and how much she wants to fvck me (I'm not complaining!) I told her,' i'll see what I can do...'
** However, rather than get too excited, I'm quite wary, guys. She also frequents a sports forum I go on, and I can see she is a total attention *****, and a real prik tease, with guys all ages and marital status, she doesn't care. She's saying stuff Like 'ooh, you'll have to take me for a drink' kind of vibe to these guys (but without meaning it) and 'do you have any pictures?' sorta thing. I mean, I spot her on that forum on a daily basis, attention wh0ring away - yet she hasn't even contacted me in all this time, so she's can't say she's busy etc.
I guess I'm just seeing whether:
a) She takes me for another of her satellite male chumps to feed her ego?
b) Is it worth it, just to bone her? I mean, we have a lot in common and she told me that she does like me, I guess I like her (yeah I know we've not met), but it seems a lot of hassle for a night of passion..and she may flake out anyway...
c) Is she bi-polar? - ie. really horny messages one day, and ravaged with guilt the next..? Major mixed signals.
d) If you start by sending really sexual messages to each other prior to even meeting, are you then placing too much pressure and potential awkwardness on each other from the word go, once you do meet?
Whats your take on it guys? - Worth a try, or best avoided?? Am I developing oneitis?? I'm not exactly a player, just a decent looking guy who looks after himself (age 28 - she is too)
Thanks in advance..and apologies for the length of post..
This chick and I met online after she messaged me first (she lives about 80 miles away) -we've messaged each other via text for 2 weeks now. The chats have been pretty sexually charged from early on -we have also exchanged pictures. I always make a point of not being too available, pretty cool, with just the right mix of C+F. We have a very good rapport.
Now, she's also seeing a guy too, which Is why I have not called her (she requested I didnt) - she says things are 'stale' with him, and she keeps threatening to leave him etc - But I feel she's in too deep with the whole 'house together (renting)' and 'anything is better than being alone' mentality. There are also days on end with no contact from her, i.e. her guy has been nice to her and she feels badly guilty etc. Even now, I haven't heard from her for 3 days.
If I'm honest, she's good fun, articulate and 'cultured' (i.e. she has many interests in her life, and isnt dumb or shallow). She's probably a HB7 or 8, nice body, pretty face, and has a bit of a nerdy look going on - I like this in a lady. We have lots in common, and I guess I am just looking for some fun with her, rather than a LTR, so the boyfriend thing doesn't bother me. I don't exactly get to hook up with many women right now, due to work and my mechanics course (it's all guys!)
We support the same sports team - she doesn't live near enough to attend many games, but is in the area next month, and keeps dropping hints about her and me going out after the game around town with others, and us two getting a room together in a hotel..and how much she wants to fvck me (I'm not complaining!) I told her,' i'll see what I can do...'
** However, rather than get too excited, I'm quite wary, guys. She also frequents a sports forum I go on, and I can see she is a total attention *****, and a real prik tease, with guys all ages and marital status, she doesn't care. She's saying stuff Like 'ooh, you'll have to take me for a drink' kind of vibe to these guys (but without meaning it) and 'do you have any pictures?' sorta thing. I mean, I spot her on that forum on a daily basis, attention wh0ring away - yet she hasn't even contacted me in all this time, so she's can't say she's busy etc.
I guess I'm just seeing whether:
a) She takes me for another of her satellite male chumps to feed her ego?
b) Is it worth it, just to bone her? I mean, we have a lot in common and she told me that she does like me, I guess I like her (yeah I know we've not met), but it seems a lot of hassle for a night of passion..and she may flake out anyway...
c) Is she bi-polar? - ie. really horny messages one day, and ravaged with guilt the next..? Major mixed signals.
d) If you start by sending really sexual messages to each other prior to even meeting, are you then placing too much pressure and potential awkwardness on each other from the word go, once you do meet?
Whats your take on it guys? - Worth a try, or best avoided?? Am I developing oneitis?? I'm not exactly a player, just a decent looking guy who looks after himself (age 28 - she is too)
Thanks in advance..and apologies for the length of post..
