Online advice/critique needed asap!

[atlantadawg]

Posted on Mature Man initially, but kinda dead over there at the moment, so want y'all's feedback, too (Edit: You can't say **** on here, lol?!) :


So, Reader's Digest: threw up a profile online for ****s n' giggles, in addition to real world efforts. Looking young (25 - 30) for the most part, as, best I can tell. over 35 and online = trainwreck. I'm 42. People guess I'm 30 - 35, at most, so can pull it off, no worries. I'm handsome, witty, make 6 figures, etc., so I feel like I've got all the requisite stuff to pull this off. Need advice asap, though, on wording on how to overcome the age thing.
Here's some discussion between myself and this hot 25 yo teacher, as an example:

Me: Love your profile.
You really come across as intelligent, seem to have a great head on your shoulders, and know what you want out of live; very impressive!
To be clear, I'm a bit older than what you're looking for (but people regularly guess I'm 33 - 35), however I am very clear on who I am and where I'm going, just looking for a partner in crime that can keep up!
Check out my profile and let's chat.
Look forward to speaking and have a great day!


Her: You are very attractive and no I wouldn't guess 41, but we are definitely in different places in life. I still eat Lunchables every now and then lol I wish you the best, but I'd probably be like a 2nd daughter to you. Good luck on here with the crazies.

Me: Well, that's certainly the most flattering 'no' I've gotten in some time. Not one to chase, but we may not be as far off as you'd think, so open to reconsideration on your part. At any rate, good luck on here as well, it's kind of like bizarro world from what I've seen thus far! ;-)
Happy Holidays as well!

Her: Why can't you be ten years younger? Most messages I get in here mAke me cringe. Finally a nice one, but I just don't think it would be right for me. Grrrrr



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So...what's my play here, fellas? Some definite IOI, I think; any way to spin this into a date? I'm thinking so, but looking for some advice on how...also, more broadly, should I be addressing the age thing like I did initially with her? Any other advice from the old guard re: gaming the young ones online?
TIA

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Would second Mauser. But probably wouldn't supply a number straight away. Just go offline for a couple of days; then do as Mauser says.

The fact she is replying means it's not a definite 'no'. If it were, you would get radio silence and/or blockage. She is also making light of the age difference, which means it probably doesn't actually bother her that much. Give her time (on her own) to reconsider.

As an aside, your messages are a little lengthy. Try to deliver same impact more concisely. Also, you've now pushed her twice; leave it to her now,or you'll look desperate.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

You: Because if I was 10 years younger, I'd be one of those uninteresting fellows you keep hearing from But hey, can't really know a person until you meet 'em, right? Let's make it simple: you, me, coffee and chat at a Starbucks to see what's what - I'm free Tuesday and Thursday, lmk which works best for u

See, I throw it out there like I already ASSUME she's going to say yes. This is called "Being assertive" and "taking the lead." I don't ASK her to meet up, I TELL her it's going to happen and let her decide between two days. Even a woman that's on the fence won't turn down something as simple as coffee, especially if there's an interest there. Good luck!

 

[Soolaimon]

I wouldn't make a big deal about your age.

Start talking to the women and ask them out for a date.

Let the chips fall where they may.

If they are really interested they will go out.

I have girls at work who use online dating to pass the time.

I browsed some of the profiles and most people are looking to date people into their late 30's. I don't think 4 more years would make much of a difference if they are really interested in a guy who has his stuff together.

Women only make excuses for guys they have no interest in.

Start chatting them up. Go from there. Don't talk about your age unless they ask you about it.