Ongoing problem with obsessive ugliest girl in group of girls I see every week

[Poonani Maker]

There's this fat single mom of 2 (just a Hog! no other words, though she is an accomplished musician - orchestra). She been at me for 2 years asking me to her place on Halloween, asking me to get some stuff from a guy I know, to give to her, that she's been wanting for years apparently (he's known her in her college days longer than I have). So these girls in her group Know her obsession with me (she cornered me and had me write down my number for her and texts me on an off wants me to take her shooting...I always promise but I never do, she must be getting sick of that right? ALWAYS flaking her for 2 years now). So the other girls who are better, but who I'd never be with long term because they all have flaws that would leave them out of my long term pile. One is scarred from high school zits apparently with no t!ts, another is tall (good, I like that) but fvcked up nose and tan and face not what I'm looking for, she's into me, another is short calls herself a "munchkin" (just belittles herself in front of me) is Also a single mom, but with a semi-cute face but is fat as well and looks like she's sucked a lot of c0cks, you know, just that c0ck-sucking mouth, you know. So that's 3 other girls.

I know they All act like they'd be interested in me, but they All, these "other" girls, Know that the fat hog musician one who's been obsessing over me for 2 fvcking years is hell-bent on landing me. So I believe that they all try to show me they're interested in me to Hurt Her. They do it to See if they can get me to ask them out or show an interest in them in front of her. But then I know that they'd just dump me or just be playing games to prove to themselves that they are better than the least desirable hog one.

So I show NO interest in Any of them, because I know I'm being Used to make the one they know is obsessed upset. I hate that I have to go through this Week in and Week out, but these are people I am in business contact with and I must see/be around them week in and week out.

The ONLY Way that I could every entertain being with one of these "other" girls would be if one of them just got really bold and wanted to like fvck me in the back room or something. I might do it, because of course, they'd never tell. So dating one of them? No, because they'd just be using me to get at her. But an all-out "Do me, now.." just to see if I will, then fine, I'll do either one of them. I'm sure they'd probably even tell the obsessed one, eventually, that I fvcked them.

I'm so sick of single moms (two of the girls aren't) and just Average girls (3 + 1). I love what I do, and if I wanted I could be around much hotter girls on a daily/weekly basis, but then my work would become Much more difficult. It's the easy life vs hot girls. I've been choosing (and will continue to choose) the easy life for 2 years now. But I'm sick of the apartment-living homely girls. I mean they're Nice and everything, but so average and it's like God damn, how do these girls get this way (skeletons in closets - been divorced w/ child, c0ck carousel early on in their 20s) or were they just born this way. Partying and fvcking up in life can make what-would-be-perserved faces of these girls turn into a used and worn look. I'm tired of the let-it-all-go-early-on-in-their-lives girls. I let them all know that I don't want them by my offstandishness, yet they still play me. They still try to make the one who's obsessed jealous. If any of them ever "had" me, they'd drop me, cause that's all they're trying to do which is to prove to themselves that they are better than the obsessed one.

This has been ongoing for 2 years and it's getting kinda tiring. I need to stop flirting as well, cause they keep fanning the flames.

 

[Julian]

birdsof a feather flock together bro...set yoir female standards higher

 

[Bayne05]

Seems to me you actually enjoying all this attention. If you don't want someone you make it clear that you don't, just tell her you just friends nothing more.

 

[Arcturus]

So much to comment on here. First off you have some serious work to do on yourself if you've made 2,800 posts and still don't see the obvious solution in this situation. Why do you need to worry about dating any of them? Are you in a scarcity mentality? They sound PATHETIC. Find yourself a real social circle, it's easy to be a big fish in a very very small and filthy pond. Tell them you're seeing someone, tell them how you love them all as sisters, ask for relationship advice with the new imaginary girlfriend and talk about how in love you are. In short friendzone them hard. Talk about how you have this friend named Mike who's this amazing guy the fatty would just LOVE, how they'd get along great and how you need to introduce them, but he just doesn't get out much because he's so busy with his job as a doctor. This will get her to take the bait and back off of you, in the hopes of another prize. You never have to actually introduce any of them to anyone, you can just talk about it and then make some excuses. Mentally they will start pulling their attachments off of you, in anticipation.

 

[Poonani Maker]

So much to comment on here. First off you have some serious work to do on yourself if you've made 2,800 posts and still don't see the obvious solution in this situation. Why do you need to worry about dating any of them? Are you in a scarcity mentality? They sound PATHETIC. Find yourself a real social circle, it's easy to be a big fish in a very very small and filthy pond. Tell them you're seeing someone, tell them how you love them all as sisters, ask for relationship advice with the new imaginary girlfriend and talk about how in love you are. In short friendzone them hard. Talk about how you have this friend named Mike who's this amazing guy the fatty would just LOVE, how they'd get along great and how you need to introduce them, but he just doesn't get out much because he's so busy with his job as a doctor. This will get her to take the bait and back off of you, in the hopes of another prize. You never have to actually introduce any of them to anyone, you can just talk about it and then make some excuses. Mentally they will start pulling their attachments off of you, in anticipation.

I've already done much of those things, especially promoting a friend to her. They All are struggling pretty much financially, even though they've told me that their ex is paying child support/alimony. I straight up told them that that's their problem, that wow how great do you have it?? They complain about how hard it is to raise their children alone and work, taking them to school and on and on. I tell them don't go crying to me, you're getting $$$ from some dude who doesn't have custody. They did not get angry with me surprisingly. What I said could have damaged our professional, as well as, personal relationships but it didn't they weren't offended like I suspect Most single moms would be if you told them the truth. I have many other women, but I keep my doors open, even to the half-assed ones, if but for a fvck Only, plus I have a professional relationship I must maintain with them. I'm just tired of the pining and the innuendos from these ladies in a constant group, week in and week out. I've made tons of excuses for not seeing her. She has No shame that they Know about my numerous rejections of her. I don't know how she stays existent in their presence. She cares not what they think apparently and will embarrass herself to no end. But the whole time I'm like "WTF?" .... implying "I'd never be with/date you..."

 

[Trunks]

Why not just tell her you are not interested?

 

[Poonani Maker]

Why not just tell her you are not interested?

Idk, women have "not told me they're 'not' interested" and strung me along and it kinda fvcked me up and now I'm playing the flip side to fvck THEM up, I guess. I guess that's why I'm doin it. It's like a "fvck you" fvck your gender, so Ima not tell you I don't want/like you. When she grabs me though that's a problem and she does try to touch me often, and I'll recoil (but. it. doesn't. phase. her. -- it's like she doesn't even notice my recoil).

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

You know, some things in life just suck and you've got to deal with them.

I need to stop flirting as well, cause they keep fanning the flames.

And

but these are people I am in business contact with and I must see/be around them week in and week out.

And

and if I wanted I could be around much hotter girls on a daily/weekly basis, but then my work would become Much more difficult.

Doesn't sound like a bad situation.

I'd say just keep doing what you're doing, cut back on the flirting and see it as a long-term skill building exercise.

It IS a pretty valuable skill to be friendly and work with people you inwardly despise.

Plus they can serve as useful sources of stories to tell with real women you're gaming.

"Yeah, that reminds me of these girls I work with that are always hitting on me, anyway..."