oneitis reoccurance...unsure of what to do

[dasefx23]

sorry if this is a bit long...i figured id post everything

i met this girl through one of my best friends (theyre neighbours, and her and my friend had only recently been getting closer as friends, so thats why i never met her before). anyway, a few nights after i met her, my friend and i hung out with her and one of her friends for the whole night and she obviously seemed into me. there was lots of teasing and kino going back and forth, and i ended up making out with her that night when my friend and her friend went out to get a case of beer. i get her email address, and talk to her the next day. the day after that, i find out shes having some people over and my friend says tells me how she told him to invite me over. so we go there, and for some reason she hangs out with a bunch of stoner guys, none of whom i get along well with so i felt very out of place. i also felt that i went out of my way to try to impress her and looked a bit foolish. i only ended up staying for an hour though, me and my friend had to leave due to circumstances beyond our control. everytime ive seen her after this day shes been friendly with me, but she didnt seem interested in me anymore. i also found out from my friend that she likes another guy, one of her stoner friends who i dont get along with. i eventually had an argument with her one time when we went to mcdonalds and she ate half of my fries without asking when i went to the washroom. so after this, im sure she strongly dislikes me, and she actually even ended up blocking me on msn. (or she just hasnt signed on in over a month, im leading towards the first possibility) her and my close friend see each other every day, but i hadnt seen her for a few weeks so my oneitis lessened a lot. however, ive been hanging out with my close friend a lot over the last week and this girl has come by his house to hang out nearly all the time. i now find myself liking her again, and im very unsure as to why.
theres another girl who i know likes me and is better than this girl in every way...yet i dont like her as much. im thinknig that i just like her now because theres no way i can have her, and people want something more when they cant have it, but im not sure if thats the reason. any help is much appreciated.

 

[redspicyflag]

To attract women

you must be able to walk away

Forget this girl

Spin other plates

read the DJ Bible

 

[kreuz]

Dear dasefx23,

My friend you simply need to realize that there is no -one- in the world. So this girl hangs out with a bunch of people you do not like, do you really think she is not part of that group as well? Bottom line is that you need to look at the people she associates with and realize she probably is just like them. You need to step back and stop being around her, if she comes over, leave. If she tries to talk to you, just blow her off. You need to remove yourself from the situation and be yourself. Go hang out with your other friends for awhile, find some other women to talk to and get your stuff together.

Side note for you wannabe Dj's: If a girl gives you her email and not her number just skip the whole mess. Also if she suddenly disappears from MSN/AIM/etc it probably means you went too far and creeped her out. In layman's terms: You screwed up and went AFC.

Women are a dime a dozen, keep your chin up, and try to associate with more ladies to realize how easy it is to find another "one"
-K

Side note: There is never a "one" for the true DJ, so if you find yourself being caught by this BS "oneities" crap, you need to work on yourself/self-esteem/personal issues before you get remotely involved with another woman.

 

[Heart Break Kid]

Redspicyflag is dead right, you have to spin more plates.

 

[Scorched]

hmmm
1. Don't ever get a girl's e-mail address... Shoot straight for the number.
- If you start talking to more than one girl the following will come naturally -
2. Play hard to get, do not go hang out with her with little notice, you should already be busy, make her fit your schedule.
3. Pass her tests, she'll try to make you jealous, mad etc... She just wants to see how much power she can get.
4. Be a man and read her. Put her in her place. Be Dominant. Be like her father in a way...