"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Oneitis relapses for ex girlfriend

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I'm talking to two other girls, but they just aren't cutting it. Idk how I am supposed to get sex anymore. I haven't talked to her in a week, but I'm hoping she stops being annoying and texts me after finals.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dhoulmagus said:
I haven't talked to her in a week, but I'm hoping she stops being a cvnt and texts me after finals.
There's that great story about the guy who tweeted Hugh Hefner, asking him, "how do you have so many *****es?"

He replied, "I have a lot of girlfriends because I don't call them *****es. A little respect will take you a long way."

Common problem on SoSuave - and I'm not saying to pedestalize, over-compliment, or be beta in any way - is to have really negative attitudes towards women and to write posts about how all women are good for is pump and dump... and then they wonder why they can't get any women.

Even if you don't call them cvnts, they can feel it radiating off you.
 

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Heisenberg said:
There's that great story about the guy who tweeted Hugh Hefner, asking him, "how do you have so many *****es?"

He replied, "I have a lot of girlfriends because I don't call them *****es. A little respect will take you a long way."

Common problem on SoSuave - and I'm not saying to pedestalize, over-compliment, or be beta in any way - is to have really negative attitudes towards women and to write posts about how all women are good for is pump and dump... and then they wonder why they can't get any women.

Even if you don't call them cvnts, they can feel it radiating off you.
I changed it lol
 

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Heisenberg said:
There's that great story about the guy who tweeted Hugh Hefner, asking him, "how do you have so many *****es?"

He replied, "I have a lot of girlfriends because I don't call them *****es. A little respect will take you a long way."
He conveniently forgot to mention the millions of dollars in his bank, the playboy brand name, the mansion, the cars, the cigars, and the fame.

Common problem on SoSuave - and I'm not saying to pedestalize, over-compliment, or be beta in any way - is to have really negative attitudes towards women and to write posts about how all women are good for is pump and dump... and then they wonder why they can't get any women.

Even if you don't call them cvnts, they can feel it radiating off you.
You can feel that, just don't tell them that. Hate to say it but a lot of them are good for pump and dump. I've seen the worst of worst, especially in North American culture, where the women will turn on you and play the victim in 8 seconds if it benefits her. Even if you have evidence, they are always the victim because they are born female. :whistle:
 

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No guarantee your ex will spread her legs either. Keep meeting new women in various places to get new prospects for your sex.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Disclaimer for Trump: The below is not specifically about you, I just want to use your words to make a highly unscientific point. Something for us to think on.

Trump said:
Hate to say it but a lot of them are good for pump and dump. I've seen the worst of worst, especially in North American culture, where the women will turn on you and play the victim in 8 seconds if it benefits her. Even if you have evidence, they are always the victim because they are born female. :whistle:
One of my flaws is negative thinking. I've done a lot of work and a lot of research to get that straight. I've learned how to identify and define cognitive distortions that interfere with me enjoying life maybe as much as I could. I wanted to bring one to everybody's attention.

Overgeneralization: we come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. If something bad happens only once, we expect it to happen over and over again. A person may see a single, unpleasant event as part of a never-ending pattern of defeat.

It seems like there is a lot of overgeneralization on this forum. Because something happened to them once or even many, many times, it kind of becomes the rule.

In Trump's statement, he says "a lot" of them are good for pump and dump. Okay, at least he didn't say "all" like many posters would. But "a lot" is still misleading. Would "a lot" mean more than half of single women are only good for pump and dump? That still seems to magnify the stats ("magnification" is a separate cognitive distortion).

The woman "will" turn on you. No, the sun WILL rise and WILL set. A woman may turn on you.

They are "always" the victim because they were born female. No, not always.

I don't mean to write a new-agey post here - I also apologize to the OP, maybe I should have made this its own thread - but I think there's something to the idea that thinking patterns lead to social problems.

And, let's face it, most guys on here have social problems. If we didn't, we wouldn't need a handbook for how to act.
 

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Heisenberg said:
Disclaimer for Trump: The below is not specifically about you, I just want to use your words to make a highly unscientific point. Something for us to think on.



One of my flaws is negative thinking. I've done a lot of work and a lot of research to get that straight. I've learned how to identify and define cognitive distortions that interfere with me enjoying life maybe as much as I could. I wanted to bring one to everybody's attention.

Overgeneralization: we come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. If something bad happens only once, we expect it to happen over and over again. A person may see a single, unpleasant event as part of a never-ending pattern of defeat.

It seems like there is a lot of overgeneralization on this forum. Because something happened to them once or even many, many times, it kind of becomes the rule.

In Trump's statement, he says "a lot" of them are good for pump and dump. Okay, at least he didn't say "all" like many posters would. But "a lot" is still misleading. Would "a lot" mean more than half of single women are only good for pump and dump? That still seems to magnify the stats ("magnification" is a separate cognitive distortion).

The woman "will" turn on you. No, the sun WILL rise and WILL set. A woman may turn on you.

They are "always" the victim because they were born female. No, not always.

I don't mean to write a new-agey post here - I also apologize to the OP, maybe I should have made this its own thread - but I think there's something to the idea that thinking patterns lead to social problems.

And, let's face it, most guys on here have social problems. If we didn't, we wouldn't need a handbook for how to act.

One of the best posts I've seen on SS. Cheers
 

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Heisenberg said:
Disclaimer for Trump: The below is not specifically about you, I just want to use your words to make a highly unscientific point. Something for us to think on.



One of my flaws is negative thinking. I've done a lot of work and a lot of research to get that straight. I've learned how to identify and define cognitive distortions that interfere with me enjoying life maybe as much as I could. I wanted to bring one to everybody's attention.

Overgeneralization: we come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. If something bad happens only once, we expect it to happen over and over again. A person may see a single, unpleasant event as part of a never-ending pattern of defeat.

It seems like there is a lot of overgeneralization on this forum. Because something happened to them once or even many, many times, it kind of becomes the rule.

In Trump's statement, he says "a lot" of them are good for pump and dump. Okay, at least he didn't say "all" like many posters would. But "a lot" is still misleading. Would "a lot" mean more than half of single women are only good for pump and dump? That still seems to magnify the stats ("magnification" is a separate cognitive distortion).

The woman "will" turn on you. No, the sun WILL rise and WILL set. A woman may turn on you.

They are "always" the victim because they were born female. No, not always.

I don't mean to write a new-agey post here - I also apologize to the OP, maybe I should have made this its own thread - but I think there's something to the idea that thinking patterns lead to social problems.

And, let's face it, most guys on here have social problems. If we didn't, we wouldn't need a handbook for how to act.
It's more of a human instinct. Our ancestors learned to just stay away/stand your guard against apex predators in the area. Does it mean all tigers will attack every human? Not necessarily, but it was smart to still avoid them. Last, I truly believe most women have some mental issue.
 
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