"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oneitis Help(weve gone out twice)

Stark

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we are both in high school and weve been friends for about a year. weve been out twice now. 1 i took her to dinner. 2 i took her to dinner and a movie.
but we have not had any physical contact yet and by that i mean holding hands, kissing, whatever. we are in the friends zone tho so thats probably why i have not been able to pull off anything yet. i just have not been given a green light to engage in heavy flirting. she does seem interested enough in me cas shes going out with me. and theres some positive things in conversation.

1. she talks about how she gives amazing head and how she is dominant during sex the guy doesnt have to do anything (this was on our first date)

2. she keeps talking down her xs and people that are hitting on her.

3. everytime after we go out she says she had fun and enjoyed it.'

4. she has sent me a good amount of hints even before we went out.

negative things

1. originally she was trying to invite a friend to **** block me when we were hanging out. she hasnt done that for our last date tho it was pretty offical.

2. her recent x i have no idea what their relationship is its honeslty the weirdest thing iv seen. she is 17 he is like 24 to 28. he looks, talks, and is a ***** tho. i think shes just using him cas shes going to move in after high school, she gets alchohol weed from him, she can throw parties at his house, and he has a good amount of money. she flirts with him tho still but then again she was drinking (this was at the party). she did message me before saying they broke up and this time its over for good. so i duno that confuses me more than anything.

i can probably go on a third date with her soon. but how should i handle this one. im scared im taking things too slowly ya we are friends but being the third date i should probably finally do something.

my aim is snidyy if anyone wants to help me out more
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tsmith2334

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she might be a little interested in something on the side, but she doesn't sound like ltr material to me. based on her wild personality, she'd probably get bored with you (or most decent men) fast.
 

JJMcLure

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You have said yourself you are in the friend zone and that on the third date you MUST do something. You're right there.

If you want to try to improve the situation, you have to try to kiss her on the lips. Build up to it by escalating kino throughout the 'date'. It will either work or it won't, but at least you will have tried. Don't wait for a green light from a chick, a man knows what he wants and goes after it - men lead, chicks follow.

Remember this - she said herself she is out there screwing guys, so why shouldn't it be you? If she won't even kiss you then you're just like one of her girlfriends and she likes having you around for attention.
 
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