"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oneitis for one day.

Flabbergasped?

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I went to a dinner with this chick Thurs. She ordinarily isn't that attractive, but her dress was especially alluring. We end up boozing together, and I don't close that night because she's just too drunk. Throughout the night though, I kino her lots, hands up her dress, etc. Didn't finger her since there were dozens of people around us.

I figure, hell, might as well follow through with this. I don't call Friday because I'm more or less asleep all day, and I only ring her Sat night. She didn't pick up, but I saw her by coincidence later that night anyway, so meh.

Anyway, between Thurs and Sat, I had the most ridiculous one-itis. All sorts of fantasies, tormented between when to call her and what to say, going through conversations in my mind, etc. It was terrible.

Then, on Sat morning, I realize that I forgot what she looked like.

That's right, my mind had created a phantom that was amazingly attractive, and my one-itis spawned from that. It took me a little while to realize that I had gamed this chick like any other. When I saw her on Sat, it suddenly vanished when I saw once again what she looked like, and I realized I was overreacting. In either case, she definitely wasn't as warm as she was on Thurs, but that's ok, I figure I'll next her anyway.

So, a little note on my experience with one-itis. Most of the time, the amazing girl you're obsessing over doesn't exist. Once you sort that out, you shouldn't really have much of a problem.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Flabbergasped?

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Bump. Thoughts?
 

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yea

had this on vacation once,
you're on a camping, chillin with a girl, at night what you said fantasys and shít,
then you see her the next day and you go like wtf?

had this last week with my first girlfriend, oneitis two years --> see her, chill with her for a day, think to myself TWO YEARS WTF

anyway to prevent this?
 
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