"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oneitis bug has hit me

FunkyMillion

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Damn! I hate this.

There is this office manager where I work for, she's ok, she's cute but not close to a hb 7 maybe hb5 or hb6.5. She's just tall skinny, curly hair, fair skin, everything I look for in a girl. For some reason, I'm having this oneitis for her, I don't know why. I'm really trying hard to avoid her, not talking to her, just doing everything to forget about her but it just wont go away because I work in that office everyday and I see her everyday. It's a small office. which means that our desks are pretty close to one another.

It feels really weird because I feel like she's not giving me attention while she's giving others more attention. The interesting part is that I know it's psychological [oneitis] but I keep feeling the same way. DAMN!!! I hate this sh!t, I wish there were pills for these.

Anyone else had this experience? Any advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maxtro

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You can not go for her. Not only are you coworkers she is your manager. That would be big trouble.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Maybe you should try making friends with her.
You won't be afraid of talking to her, she'll be talking to you and you'll be in the Friendzone so there will no longer be oneitis.

Anyway, the best way to get over oneitis is to meet more girls. So get out and have some fun and talk to some new people man.
 

Potbelly

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Oneitis is often the result of prolonged isolation with women.

Recently I "fell" for this cute girl, but when I regaing my senses I looked at her carefully and realized I was throwing my time away. It happens to the best of us bro....just be sociable and you'll be set. You're desperate and craving some human interaction and attraction.
 

DJorBUST

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Oneitis is the worst disease to have. I speak from experience. Find another woman or kill yourself. Those are really the best two option with this particular affliction.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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