Just thought I would post an update here quickly.
So I got dumped a year ago, I was a mess, didn't really know what to do and where to go. Getting back into the game was tough, I hadn't really flirted for over three or four years, or even seriously considered any girl for sex. It was weird, plain and simple.
I was very lucky though, I started a new job shortly after the break up. Early on I noticed that most of the women there were ugly, yet attracted to me; a great confidence boost. I also strayed away from eating where I ****; even though there are at least four occasions where I could have gotten some sex there from co-workers.
There was also a really awesome, attractive and outgoing guy there, and we hit it straight of the bat. He is a bit younger then me; and we have a sort of mentor/pupil relationship. He is a lot more successful with women then me, but I feel like I have taught him how to handle it; and the best thing is that we build each other up, and not the opposite way around. In many ways I see myself in him, if only I hadn't gotten a major depression in my teens.
Once I started to go out more, with a new group of people, mostly guys, but guys that land some major ass. I was soon the alpha of that gang, even though my success rate is much lower then most of theirs. Again, I take this pretty lightly; mostly because I have learnt the most important lesson in life a man can learn:
Women are not the main course, but the dessert.
I feel like I have reached a healthy balance between focusing on my own life and goals, and how they are not connected to my success with women. This has actually made me a lot more easy going with them, because what happens, happens: it's not a big deal. I can fvck two girls in a weekend and then go for a month with "failure". My confidence might waiver, but again it does not affect my general performance. Feedback from work and colleagues is amazing, and in all reality, they are building me to become a leader.
I have done one bad thing though, contacted the ex. And we are sleeping together about once a month, I don't harbor any resentment or negative feeling towards her. But I do think she will be disappointed if she wants to get together again. Most of my old friends say I have really changed, more outgoing, not as bitter and critical; just enjoying life!
I have had girls call me "Bachelor of the Year", "A natural leader", "Wow, you are really good at this". I just have to stay sober... I get way too wasted sometimes.
Although my success in banging that is not so good, I don't have any problems in attracting girls. I get "the look"/hair touching etc. all the time in clubs and bars (or it's just my inflated ego, anyways it feels good), but the real problem is actually reading when I should go in for the kill. I can hold up a conversation, make them laugh till they cry (not by being a clown or anything), but moving from that to the bed is usually a big stumbling block. And most of the time they bore me so much that I can't stand being around their insecurities for more then an hour or two.
I also have a problem with dealing with needy guys, guess I just have to man up and show them who's boss. Ignore their jealous looks and just gun for it (What do I have to lose anyways? And why be friendly to someone you are clearly superior to?). So much more at ease socially now, not worried about what people think of me really; I just try to have a good time, smile and stand proud!
I know I have what it takes, everyone keeps telling me that I do.
This pretty much turned into a wall of text, so this year in stats:
ONS: 8 (one them anal LOL)
#'s: Can't even keep count.
FB's: One
Make-Outs: 30+
Girl-friend material met: 0 (keep chasing them skirts I guess
)
Happy being me? Oh yes!
ps. didn't really want to make a show-off thread, but just needed to get some of this off my heart (haha). Reading on sosuave has really been helpful, and funny. I'm not "there" yet, but I am mentally. Keep sarging!
So I got dumped a year ago, I was a mess, didn't really know what to do and where to go. Getting back into the game was tough, I hadn't really flirted for over three or four years, or even seriously considered any girl for sex. It was weird, plain and simple.
I was very lucky though, I started a new job shortly after the break up. Early on I noticed that most of the women there were ugly, yet attracted to me; a great confidence boost. I also strayed away from eating where I ****; even though there are at least four occasions where I could have gotten some sex there from co-workers.
There was also a really awesome, attractive and outgoing guy there, and we hit it straight of the bat. He is a bit younger then me; and we have a sort of mentor/pupil relationship. He is a lot more successful with women then me, but I feel like I have taught him how to handle it; and the best thing is that we build each other up, and not the opposite way around. In many ways I see myself in him, if only I hadn't gotten a major depression in my teens.
Once I started to go out more, with a new group of people, mostly guys, but guys that land some major ass. I was soon the alpha of that gang, even though my success rate is much lower then most of theirs. Again, I take this pretty lightly; mostly because I have learnt the most important lesson in life a man can learn:
Women are not the main course, but the dessert.
I feel like I have reached a healthy balance between focusing on my own life and goals, and how they are not connected to my success with women. This has actually made me a lot more easy going with them, because what happens, happens: it's not a big deal. I can fvck two girls in a weekend and then go for a month with "failure". My confidence might waiver, but again it does not affect my general performance. Feedback from work and colleagues is amazing, and in all reality, they are building me to become a leader.
I have done one bad thing though, contacted the ex. And we are sleeping together about once a month, I don't harbor any resentment or negative feeling towards her. But I do think she will be disappointed if she wants to get together again. Most of my old friends say I have really changed, more outgoing, not as bitter and critical; just enjoying life!
I have had girls call me "Bachelor of the Year", "A natural leader", "Wow, you are really good at this". I just have to stay sober... I get way too wasted sometimes.
Although my success in banging that is not so good, I don't have any problems in attracting girls. I get "the look"/hair touching etc. all the time in clubs and bars (or it's just my inflated ego, anyways it feels good), but the real problem is actually reading when I should go in for the kill. I can hold up a conversation, make them laugh till they cry (not by being a clown or anything), but moving from that to the bed is usually a big stumbling block. And most of the time they bore me so much that I can't stand being around their insecurities for more then an hour or two.
I also have a problem with dealing with needy guys, guess I just have to man up and show them who's boss. Ignore their jealous looks and just gun for it (What do I have to lose anyways? And why be friendly to someone you are clearly superior to?). So much more at ease socially now, not worried about what people think of me really; I just try to have a good time, smile and stand proud!
I know I have what it takes, everyone keeps telling me that I do.
This pretty much turned into a wall of text, so this year in stats:
ONS: 8 (one them anal LOL)
#'s: Can't even keep count.
FB's: One
Make-Outs: 30+
Girl-friend material met: 0 (keep chasing them skirts I guess
)Happy being me? Oh yes!
ps. didn't really want to make a show-off thread, but just needed to get some of this off my heart (haha). Reading on sosuave has really been helpful, and funny. I'm not "there" yet, but I am mentally. Keep sarging!
