one quick question on cold approaches

[starfishandcoffee]

So I've been getting numbers left and right this semester - had a few dates so far, too, and a one-night-stand the other week. May post an approach journal of my own in the not-too-distant future. One question before I do that, though, and I want to get over this hump first.

How exactly do you flirt from the get-go? Though I've gotten numbers, sooo many of them have been from the "I'm a nice, talkative guy, let's be talkative together some other time" angle. When I ask for the phone number, I ALMOST ALWAYS get a semi-surprised reaction, like they didn't think I was hitting on them. While this doesn't immediately spell disaster, it's the wrong foot to get off on.

 

[Masculinity]

I have the SAME damn problem!!!
I get a lot of numbers, but they are only interested in being friends or something because the way you approach? They're nice, receptive, playful and talkative, but when it's time to hangout socially they don't respond.

I don't want more friends! Hell, if I wanted more friends I'd get guy friends or a dog, hah.

 

[Twitch]

I always get that surprised reaction, like they didn't think I was hitting on them. What gives?

 

[blueline]

Give these women direct eye contact as you're talking to them. They'll know what's up after that. You might creep a few out, but that's the risk of being obvious.

This is the thing, though, when you hit their attraction threshold (be it through status [this you have none of in a cold approach], looks, personality, whatever), they will interpret things as you hitting on them and the interaction will slowly end up moving in that direction.