"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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one of the safest ways to find out if your female friend is attracted to you or not

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This morning I just had an epiphany on how to see if my female friend finds me attractive beyond just being friends.


Here it goes:

ME: Hey *****, can I ask you something, and be honest as possible.

Her: Okay, (with a look of bewilderment as she doesn't know what I'm about to ask).

Me: Do you find me attractive, beyond just being a friend? (Looking right into her eyes)

Now her answer will determine what I would say next.

If Yes: Me: Well how come have we never hooked up?

Simple..

If No: Me: Well ----- okay then, its cool, I respect you for telling me straight up where we stand..

Simple..


So there you have it. So in way I'm telling her that I could possibly see her as more than friend without getting all overdramactic about it. By asking my female friend about "US'' in this way the friendship is still intact and also she has newfound respect for me- Since I did, like a MAN told her how I really feel about her. No weirdness inovovled-just a simple question that deserves a simple answer-Yes or No. Tell what are some of your guys ideas?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Re: one of the safest ways find out if your female friend is attracted to you or not

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What are your guys thoughts?
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Stop looking for "safe", that still means that you are not comfortable with the idea that your desires, and wants are just as important as anyone's elses.

The best way is too simply ask her "when are you going to make a pass at me, since you know you want too?"
 
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Re: Re: one of the safest ways find out if your female friend is attracted to you or

Originally posted by Royal Elite
The best way is too simply ask her "when are you going to make a pass at me, since you know you want too?"
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This guys on fire!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LOl

LOL! This post is really evoking some responses thanks guys!
 
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Re: Re: one of the safest ways find out if your female friend is attracted to you or not

Originally posted by Royal Elite
Stop looking for "safe", that still means that you are not comfortable with the idea that your desires, and wants are just as important as anyone's elses.

The best way is too simply ask her "when are you going to make a pass at me, since you know you want too?"
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You have a point royal but maybe you are misunderstanding what I meant by "safe". Being "safe" to me mean to mantain as much control possible-not over-exposing your emotions. I say "safe" as to not let her know just how much you like her-BUT letting her know that you are possibly interested in her beyond a friendship level..Hope that clarified what I menat.
 
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Re: Re: Re: one of the safest ways find out if your female friend is attracted to you or not

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You have a point royal but maybe you are misunderstanding what I meant by "safe". Being "safe" to me mean to mantain as much control possible-not over-exposing your emotions. I say "safe" as to not let her know just how much you like her-BUT letting her know that you are possibly interested in her beyond a friendship level..Hope that clarified what I menat.
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Got you bro!

The best way as not to let a woman know "how much you like her" is simply not to tell her. Stop being so detailed with them.

I once told a chick playfully "You keep dressing like that I'll marry you". Mind you she was cute but I wasn't thinking about her like that, she was a friend. Some months later we are playfully flirting again, and she tells me about that comment, and how just as she was making passes at me, that I was making passes at her.

I forgot about that comment since it was a joke to me, but she took it very seriously. My point is just make a simple statement, and dont get overly mushy, and overly detailed. Let her mind start wondering "how much", but you dont tell her.

Just like men, women analsis everything, over and over again.

Simply say "You know what Im feeling you, you are really cool". That's it nothing more, then let her imagination do the rest.
 
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You know I asked my friend that VERY HONESTLY cuz I wanted to know and she got all offended at me and sent her bf after me. :rolleyes:
 
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I never did/do the ask thing. If I wanted to **** my friend, I simply made a move.

You will find out that way.

Is it "safe"? No. But what exactly is "safe" in this context? I never had a big deal with losing female "friends", so i never had the idea of safety to worry about.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The answer is obvious - if they found you "attractive" they would not be your "friend", they would be your mate!!!!
 
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Why do you need to ask. Everytime you ask, you get the chick telling you that she only wants to be friends even if she is interested in you... You give her an opportunity to apply the brakes and she will. All you are doing is throwing up a hoop and asking her to jump thru it... Kinda forcing or pre-empting her to be your BF or lover or to just jump to the next level... The thing is, she may well be interested in you but a question like that would trigger her anti-$lut mechanism in almost all circumstances. Her answer might not be what her heart wanted but she won't back down once she has said it..

Its unneccessary....
 
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make sense

Originally posted by MacDiddy
Why do you need to ask. Everytime you ask, you get the chick telling you that she only wants to be friends even if she is interested in you... You give her an opportunity to apply the brakes and she will. All you are doing is throwing up a hoop and asking her to jump thru it... Kinda forcing or pre-empting her to be your BF or lover or to just jump to the next level... The thing is, she may well be interested in you but a question like that would trigger her anti-$lut mechanism in almost all circumstances. Her answer might not be what her heart wanted but she won't back down once she has said it..

Its unneccessary....
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You have a point. Quite honestly I can really care less now about getting with her now-Although she is hot as hell..there is other pu$$y out there. We guys always overestimate the feeling we have for a girl when in reality we just want some sex most of the time.



"Be true to yourself"
 
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