"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nednaw said:
One thing I find works very well in this situation. Before you do anything STOP and THINK. Turn the tables and think what it would mean to you if a girl you just met called you 10 times a day. How would you feel if she insisted on buying everything, opening doors for you, wanting to be with you every minute. How would you feel if some average girl told you she loved you after the first date?

That right, you'd think PSYCHO! or BUNNY BOILER right? It would make you want to run away. You would think you have got someone way below your station. You'd wonder what was wrong with her.

Well guys, that’s EXACTLY what she thinks of you when you do these things.

Do yourself a favour and TRUN THE TABLES when you’re thinking about doing something for her. Think how you would feel if some random girl did that for you. Would you be impressed? Probably not. In fact it would make you devalue her. You would think she is cheap and desperate wouldn't you?

Now am I right that this is UNATTRACTIVE behaviour?

Ok, now we have cleared that up lets move on to something more interesting.

So you’ve met this girl, you think she’s ok, but then you get that all too familiar ‘I’m falling for her’, ‘I need to be with her’, ‘She’s exactly what I’m looking for’ feeling. STOP this nonsense, wake up and grow up. Lean back and take it easy. Concentrate on how she is being with you. Don’t call, be patient and wait. When she calls cut the conversation short, ‘Sorry babes, the boys have just turned up, I have to go’. If she asks you on a date agree but make sure the first three days she suggests you’re busy with your mates or something. Be cool, lean back. Turn the tables.

Read the posts in this group and ask yourself this. What is it that's turning these guys from liking a girl into being infatuated by them?

That’s right, all of the girls mentioned showed a little interest and then backed off, didn’t return calls, sent very mixed signals. It makes you want them more when you don’t think you can have them doesn’t it. It’s even worse when you think you might have them then they pull away. It makes you feel like your not good enough doesn't it. Well my friend you are and in most cases your better. DON'T EVER FORGET THAT.

Now do as I say and turn the tables. Be elusive, challenging, hard to get hold of, socially busy. I promise you, she will become infatuated with you. You will retain the power, you will call the shots and yes my friend she will do anything you want!
From the Archives.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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there's really only 'room" for 10% or so of the men to be alphas. The rest just take what they can get, the leftovers.
 

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just what I needed before I go on a date tmrw. thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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honestly this needs to be stickyed

thanks flith for bringning this back to the forefront
 

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The sad thing is that there's a billion gold nuggets just like this in the bible and the archives yet everyday someone posts a question that would've easily been solved by doing a little searching.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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U gotta treat them like crap

Then they will appreciate you
 
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