One of the most common AFC problems I see

[The Truth]

Jesus guys, I keep reading posts about 'girl doesn't want to do this or that' or 'girl treats me badly' and then all the AFC posters respond aggressively saying 'the b*tch has no right to do that' and all that. Then other AFCs start giving out advice on ways to manipulate her and punish her and so on.

This just shows how pathetic you are!

Here's the simple answer:-

IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY AND YOU ARE NOT GETTING WHAT YOU WANT THEN LEAVE AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!

Stop getting caught up trying to change and manipulate one specific girl into something she is not and go look for a girl who satisfies your needs!

Would you be willing to do something you really don't want to do or change yourself in ways you dont want to just to please some chick? If you have any self respect then NO of course not! So then how can you expect a chick to do the same for you?

You should be opening up your options and be out meeting lots of women. So you should be looking for the right girl instead of focusing on changing one chick.

Its been said a million times before but it needs to be said again:-

GET OUT AND MEET MORE WOMEN!

 

[mountain]

I'm glad you wrote this... it needs to be reiterated every chance possible. Being afraid to lose a particular woman or move on to the next is precisely what keeps a guy in a cycle of afc-ness.

You will realize that like everything else in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes

 

[Krassus]

This should be stickied

 

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Please reveal your true identity

 

[Eccentric]

Please reveal your true identity

He's Paul Pierce. :rock:

 

[Permission]

The Truth Has Spoken!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'm with you Truth but the real problem still needs to be addressed. Guys need to learn how to better qualify women (or qualify them period).

Yeah, women have their quirks and idiocentricities that may lie dormant for weeks, but I doubt the sh1t that's described about these horrid banshees could easily be hidden for any amount of time. These guys are either too naive to sarge properly or they choose to overlook these problems.

 

[Hitman10000]

I agree with Francisco but am curious as to what qualifying means. Qualifying the woman as a general norm such as: She can't be a junkie, she can't be a druggie, etc. Or Qualifying her behavior that is compatible with yours? I'm curious as to how one would qualify cause typically I go for the girl that my gut tells me to, and I just have guidelines to not date a girl that smokes or does drugs that I don't do.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

All of the things that you listed can be used to qualify a woman but only on a superficial level. You need to get head to figure out what makes her tick and then make a tangible decision instead of just trusting your gut. Of course it's moot if you haven't figured out what intangible qualities you want in a woman.

 

[Jester FPS]

dammit, this is the best advice I've heard all week.

i'm gonna do it.