One of my boys is annoying the hell out of me

[BlueAlpha1]

I'm sorry for the rubbish thread ahead of time I am just letting off some steam because I've never had to terminate a male friendship abruptly. Most friends I've lost have just faded away.

I met the friend in question at a sales job here in NY two years ago. I now live in FL but am back here for the summer. Only now do I realize I can't stand the dude. We were laid off together from that job and remained in touch after I moved. We spent an ungodly amount of time on the phone and got to talking a lot about many different ways to make money after the layoff, but I have recently realized after two years there is zero forward progress from him in those two years.

He is a narcissistic, egotistical, immature person with no sense of humility and it's much worse in person. Now I'm getting the feeling he's trying to AMOG me in public. For example

- He'll cross the street at a green light in the middle of the street and holler back laughing that you're waiting for the signal

- He will try to screw you out of money he owes. You'll be splitting the cost on something like a cab, he'll ask you to cover the cost, not pay you right away, and hope you forget. You'll only get paid if you pester him. I can think of 4 different times he's done this

- He wants to be "the greatest rapper of all-time with a $500 million net worth and on Forbes 30 Under 30." That's a direct quote. I wouldn't be hating if I saw a commitment to this, but like I said, the dude is all talk.

- He talks in spiritual, new age babble. He has straight up told me he used to see ghosts as a kid, has "seen himself in a past life" during yoga, has full-on conversations with spirits to this day, and feels it when the "universe" speaks to him. To each his own, but to an atheist this is the dumbest stuff I've ever heard.

- He still brags about how he's "****ed a lot of bytches". Kind of like a 16 year old or a virgin frat boy.

- He has been peppering in comments expressing anti-white attitudes more recently. Strange he'd openly be such an agitator right to a white person's face.

- He complains. A lot. I'm blowing off a little steam, but threads like this are his whole life. Constantly blaming his family/student loans/the cops/rich white people/women for his problems. The dude is 26 and never left home, so has never paid a penny in rent and was given a free car by his father. No concept of first world problems.

We do not chase women together. I can only imagine how that would go.

I think I just convinced myself to never talk to this clown again, but you guys can reinforce it anyway.

 

[Vivacity]

I'm sorry for the rubbish thread ahead of time I am just letting off some steam because I've never had to terminate a male friendship abruptly. Most friends I've lost have just faded away.

I met the friend in question at a sales job here in NY two years ago. I now live in FL but am back here for the summer. Only now do I realize I can't stand the dude. We were laid off together from that job and remained in touch after I moved. We spent an ungodly amount of time on the phone and got to talking a lot about many different ways to make money after the layoff, but I have recently realized after two years there is zero forward progress from him in those two years.

He is a narcissistic, egotistical, immature person with no sense of humility and it's much worse in person. Now I'm getting the feeling he's trying to AMOG me in public. For example

- He'll cross the street at a green light in the middle of the street and holler back laughing that you're waiting for the signal

- He will try to screw you out of money he owes. You'll be splitting the cost on something like a cab, he'll ask you to cover the cost, not pay you right away, and hope you forget. You'll only get paid if you pester him. I can think of 4 different times he's done this

- He wants to be "the greatest rapper of all-time with a $500 million net worth and on Forbes 30 Under 30." That's a direct quote. I wouldn't be hating if I saw a commitment to this, but like I said, the dude is all talk.

- He talks in spiritual, new age babble. He has straight up told me he used to see ghosts as a kid, has "seen himself in a past life" during yoga, has full-on conversations with spirits to this day, and feels it when the "universe" speaks to him. To each his own, but to an atheist this is the dumbest stuff I've ever heard.

- He still brags about how he's "****ed a lot of bytches". Kind of like a 16 year old or a virgin frat boy.

- He has been peppering in comments expressing anti-white attitudes more recently. Strange he'd openly be such an agitator right to a white person's face.

- He complains. A lot. I'm blowing off a little steam, but threads like this are his whole life. Constantly blaming his family/student loans/the cops/rich white people/women for his problems. The dude is 26 and never left home, so has never paid a penny in rent and was given a free car by his father. No concept of first world problems.

We do not chase women together. I can only imagine how that would go.

I think I just convinced myself to never talk to this clown again, but you guys can reinforce it anyway.

You, as a man, have decided that a friend of yours is a clown and do not want to talk to him again. So, let it be that way. Why do you want reinforcement from other men?

I have a past friend of mine who used to call me to hang out at a bar. We go to a bar, we drink (I don't go to bars regularly, but I am a social drinker, i.e., drink a little bit when I am with friends), and he makes me pay the entire bill (he drinks more, I drink a little) because he ran out of money. He tells me he does not have money after we finish drinking. He did this twice. He is divorced, has a son, and now has a girlfriend, who is also a divorcee. He makes his girlfriend also pay his bills. The last time we met in person, he bragged that he makes other people pay his bills. I stopped responding to his texts and calls. He does not call or text me any more and he is not my friend any more. Such people (men or women) are a joke.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

You, as a man, have decided that a friend of yours is a clown and do not want to talk to him again. So, let it be that way. Why do you want reinforcement from other men?

I have a past friend of mine who used to call me to hang out at a bar. We go to a bar, we drink (I don't go to bars regularly, but I am a social drinker, i.e., drink a little bit when I am with friends), and he makes me pay the entire bill (he drinks more, I drink a little) because he ran out of money. He tells me he does not have money after we finish drinking. He did this twice. He is divorced, has a son, and now has a girlfriend, who is also a divorcee. He makes his girlfriend also pay his bills. The last time we met in person, he bragged that he makes other people pay his bills. I stopped responding to his texts and calls. He does not call or text me any more and he is not my friend any more. Such people (men or women) are a joke.

Not necessarily looking for reinforcement, but I consider this like the fraternity I never had a college and I'm interested in a story or two about the tools that came in went in others' lives here. Thanks for sharing yours.

He was a pretty cool guy when we met. Neither one of us went for that corporate culture BS and we connected on the topic of entrepreneurship. I began to consider him a friend as he was there for me when my father died, but now that it's back to real life I understand he's all bark and no bite.

My mother often asks me why I don't reconnect with my high school friends when I visit her where I grew up, since a lot of those guys are still there. That's the whole point. I tell her I'm not interested in talking to guys who since high school have put on 50 pounds, lost 70% of their hair, and are working at the same grocery store at 26 that they did at 16 in the same small town.

I've condensed my outer circle of male companionship from about 10-12 to about 4-5 over the last two years. The few guys remaining are loyal and are very successful dudes.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I ended a friendship because he stinks as in smells bad in the Summer... man you got alot of text over a dude.

Be a rock man

Your post was too damn long to read... especially over a dude... I would never put up with the shyt I glanced over.

 

[raider87]

I ended a friendship because he stinks as in smells bad in the Summer

You and I would not get along.

 

[Bingo-Player]

i got lumbered with 2 so called "friends" for 3 years they were seriously detrimental to my progression in life and since I've finally got rid of them I feel I've progressed a lot

getting rid of them was like trying to kill ****roaches though they didn't take hints , they were loud arrogant bossy controlling demanding needy I've got a list as long as my arm

nearly drove me fvcking mental finally one of them got a girlfriend last year and the other one drifted off in the abyss

i got lucky.

 

[l__i__l]

Cut out anyone who is detrimental to your life. Everyone is replaceable.
Choose your company very wisely, it will subconsciously influence you.
Hang out with losers, you will become a loser.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I ended a friendship because he stinks as in smells bad in the Summer... man you got alot of text over a dude.

Be a rock man

Your post was too damn long to read... especially over a dude... I would never put up with the shyt I glanced over.

So don't read it. Does every single thread have to be about PUA tactics and how long before NEXTing??

It's a forum about self improvement also and I wanted to hear stories about other posters who cut weak friends out of their lives. Move along.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Lol ok good luck

 

[Asmodeus]

- He'll cross the street at a green light in the middle of the street and holler back laughing that you're waiting for the signal

- He will try to screw you out of money he owes. You'll be splitting the cost on something like a cab, he'll ask you to cover the cost, not pay you right away, and hope you forget. You'll only get paid if you pester him. I can think of 4 different times he's done this

Hmm... Mild sociopathy (everyone exists on a spectrum of it)... Reputation defending, risk taking, he manipulates, he is covetous, he tries to screw you out of money, he has narcissism, he gives no d@mn about rules and social norms. I do fully understand that these kinds of people are hard to be around. His complaining is also because he can never take reasonability for his own actions, it is a hallmark of the condition, I bet it is always everyone's fault but his.

I tend to stay solo myself... You do not actually need a wingman if you are confident and capable. In fact, if you are confident and able to approach without fear than a wingman can only hold you back. Wingmen are typically used just as cheerleaders anyway, a person to cheer you on.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Hmm... Mild sociopathy (everyone exists on a spectrum of it)... Reputation defending, risk taking, he manipulates, he is covetous, he tries to screw you out of money, he has narcissism, he gives no d@mn about rules and social norms. I do fully understand that these kinds of people are hard to be around. His complaining is also because he can never take reasonability for his own actions, it is a hallmark of the condition, I bet it is always everyone's fault but his.

I tend to stay solo myself... You do not actually need a wingman if you are confident and capable. In fact, if you are confident and able to approach without fear than a wingman can only hold you back. Wingmen are typically used just as cheerleaders anyway, a person to cheer you on.

I don't talk to girls with this guy as he would be a terrible wingman.

70% of our talk is strictly business because we had the commonality of wanting to both leave our jobs very badly at the time and that's what got the ball rolling.

I think it's him, not me, because I have 4 other close guy friends who don't bother me 1% as much as this guy does.